Is my husband a knob?

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Tonight we were eating dinner. He finished and I was still eating. He then started to say "oh the dog did something naughty today" at which point I glared at him and said "you better not be about to tell me something disgusting whilst I'm still eating"

So as not to drip feed - he has form for doing this, I've lost count of the number of times I've heard that the dog has eaten shit on a walk, or thrown up, or something else stomach churning and he seems to like to share this info whilst I'm eating. He also has form for blurting stuff out, particularly in front of friends/family. Sometimes he embarrasses himself, sometimes he's downright rude. He admits that he has no filter and regularly speaks without thinking.

Anyway, he then got massively defensive and told me that no, he wasn't going to talk about shit whilst I was eating, but thanks for placing so much trust in him (he often comes out with crap like that when he's called out on something) and will defend and deny and very rarely admits to any wrongdoing. It's like dealing with a child.

So I said ok, what were you going to say then? He got up, told me I was being fucking horrible to him and that he wasn't going to tell me and stormed out of the room and ignored me for the rest of the night.

I really wasn't horrible to him, but knowing him as I do, I'm 99.9% certain that yes, he was going to regale me with yet another delightful story about dog shit.

I thought I might as well just go to bed rather than sit downstairs on my own and he came up and asked in a rather concerned voice, what was wrong with me?! I ignored him, I really wasn't trying to be childish but I just didn't know what to say to him. It's just all so ridiculous. He's now sleeping away quite happily and I'm lying here pissed off.

What the fuck is this all about? Why does he do this?

What do you get out of this relationship?. What is in this for you still?.

What do you think your child is learning about relationships here from the two of you?. Is this really the model you want to be showing that young person?.

I do not think he is anywhere on the ASD spectrum at all; he is merely your common or garden abusive man and passive aggressive also with it. I would also google both the "cycle of abuse" and "narcissistic personality disorder" rather than Aspergers Syndrome.

Do not get stuck furthermore on the sunken costs fallacy; your comment, " we have been together 15 years" strikes me as that. This basically causes people to keep on making poor relationship decisions.

Just leave, life is so short and you don't need to listen to this crap day in and day out. At best he a pathetic little manchild and at worse a sulking moron.
Do you want to waste your entire life on this fool. Decide what to do and do it now before he steals everything you have left.
Life is great when you are living it your own way. It's such a relief when you finally go.

I hate people who say "oh I have no filter" which is utter bullshit. My last ex was like this. He would be very crude and often say innapopriate things in front of others which I found embarrassing. Personally, people like this do it for the shock factor. They enjoy the reaction they get.
I would be just as concerned about his childish strop and huff after the conversation. A decent person would have said "oh yeah, I better wait and tell you later then" instead of kicking off. You did definitely spoil his fun. He doesn't respect you at all.

Go get legal advice and start the process. You don't want to be stuck going through the same shit for the next ten years.