I've been seeing a guy most weekends since July. As time has gone on he's acted more and more "coupley" with me when we're together. Even in front of my friends over time and last weekend in front of his best friend who I'd invited over for drinks as part of a group. When we went to bed I asked him if he wanted to do the whole "relationship thing". He said it was too early in the morning so I didn't mention it again. Hadn't really heard from him since, then he text me in the middle of the day to say he'd been thinking about what I said at the weekend, it gave him a lot to think about. He wanted to know what I think because "he doesn't know what he thinks" apparently if I want to talk about it then he will, but if I want to leave it he's okay with that too.
He's always happy to make plans with me and then ring me last minute when I'm all dressed up and waiting, just to let me down. Surely if he wanted to be with me he'd know by now? He'll not contact me for days at a time because he's "in a bad place" but constantly like other girls photos on social media and flirt.
I feel humiliated for saying anything, and like he's keeping his options open for an upgrade.
I'm a single mum, was very happy on my own before this. I've fallen head over heels. On paper he's not a good prospect - struggling in a job he'll never succeed in, always living on the poverty line, smokes weed constantly, lives with his parents. But it's so lovely when we're together, constant cuddles and he tells me how beautiful I am. But I feel used. Am I just a fool to carry on being messed around?