Struggling to understand why he blocked me?!

[Sharkirasharkira]

Not that it really matters in the long run because we weren't in a relationship or anything and ultimately I will just chalk it up to experience and move on with my life but I'm just curious if anyone could shed some light on this.

Met a guy OLD. Gorgeous, seemed lovely, very complimentary of me and good conversation. We chatted for a few days and arranged to meet up for a drink a few days later. Spoke to him last thing in the evening, said goodnight and all was well, signed off with xxx's and everything.

Didn't hear from him the whole day on the day we were supposed to meet but I knew he was working so messaged him in the evening when he finished to ask when we were meeting only to find he has blocked me?! Why!! I was normal, not too full on, everything was going great I have literally no idea why he has blocked me.

I know I shouldn't care but I'm disproportionately upset by this 😞 Can anyone think of a reason? He is still on the OLD site but has just blocked me! So confused.

Probably married or seeing someone and had second thoughts

Already has a girlfriend and she got suspicious?

already in a relationship

yeh maybe he realised that he knew somebody on your friends list. All a bit too close to home?

So you never actually met?

If that's rhe case, I suspect he isn't who he said he is.

He was too cowardly to tell you the truth.

Some men are just fucking weird

Trying to cheat and, for whatever reason, particularly fears detection at this time. He can't afford for your date arrangement MSG's to be seen.

I think perhaps attached. My ex blocks me intermittently (when he is with his current ex - even though it’s him that instigates all of the messages!)

He didn't know my last name and we weren't connected on Facebook or anything so I doubt he knew anyone I know but I suppose it's possible..

Tbh I think the most likely explanation is that there was someone else involved, either a gf/wife/partner or someone else he was seeing!

@Thankyounext yes that is almost certain but what IS the truth? He just didn't fancy me? He didn't want to meet? All perfectly acceptable but entirely contradictory to his actions the night before!

@NotANotMan that is absolutely 100% true! 😂

@Bluntness100 no we didn't, you could be on to something there..

If he never went as far as meeting op I strongly suspect you were being catfished.

I reckon you were catfished too.

signed off with xxx's and everything to someone you've never met

^ lost all perspective there.

why the xxx to someone you've never even met, let alone a friend or a lover. just way too desperate and eager. why give him the benefit? are all women completely desperate now?

but anyway, I think OLD is mainly shit. and men who block for no reason are lazy, emotional retards. you dodged a complete twat, even though you thought he was amazing even though you'd never met him

Lighteningdark LOL couldn’t have put it better
Seriously if men read the stories on here no wonder they treat women like this and feel they can get away with it!

To be fair you don’t know he was gorgeous - you never met him!

Errr @LighteningDark HE was signing off with xxx's, not me, but nice assumptions and judgements you're making there, cheers!

He acts like a twat and of course it's MY fault for being too eager/too available/too interested/too friendly/too flirty/too desperate/putting too many x's in my messages and making it obvious I am therefore not worth being treated with respect 🙄🤨

By the way, I never said he was amazing I just said he seemed nice and we had good conversation, isn't that the first step in getting to meet anyone? Or am I doing it wrong somehow? obviously I am desperate for doing OLD at all and daring to want to meet up with someone

He is definitely a twat though, no arguments there!

@Sharkirasharkira Why don't you come over to the OLD board? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3427340-dating-thread-142-love-will-tear-us-apart-again

I would have significant reservations if a man I hadn't even met yet was signing off with xxx. Far too keen, even unbalanced.

Then without notice he suddenly blocks you. I agree with everyone else that he's probably in a relationship and was fishing for an OW. For some reason he got scared of getting caught and deleted you.

I can entirely understand your surprise and disappointment but it seems to me that you dodged a bullet here. A flakey guy who's probably also a cheat? No thanks.

Thanks @JeSuisPrest I'll check it out!

I wouldn't say that anyone who posts XX's is unbalanced, tbf it's a very common thing now that a lot of people do to everyone without even thinking as just a way of signing messages off and being friendly. I wouldn't read too much into it.

But yeah it's definitely put me off whatever the reason, I haven't got time for liars, cheats and mind games 😆

Did you a favour, he's up to no good and doesn't want any drama (not that you are drama, his situation would bring him drama).

You're better off without him.

Timewaster who enjoys the chat, but has no intention of meeting, either because already attached or is a fantasist creating a persona. May unblock you and try to restart as if nothing happened.

Hey Sharki, sorry I was a bit when I wrote my rather pointed post.

I actually understand how upset you might have been, and why, so I am sorry if I came off unsympathetically. It wasn't clear who signed off with xxx's by the way, if he did, that makes him an even bigger idiot not to be taken seriously. I know you didn't use the word 'amazing', but you did say "Gorgeous, seemed lovely, very complimentary of me and good conversation". None of that means diddly squat, you know, if you've never met him. He could be Mickey Mouse, and most likely is (in human form).

Its easy to feel you're in the pick me game on OLD, one reason I don't really like it for women. If you do do it, I believe, you have to try and find a way to treat it lightly to keep your self-respect until you really get to know someone. Men are often messing around on there and not to be taken remotely seriously, however "great" they sound.

It's ok, I'm not very experienced with dating in general and OLD even less so, the OLdD thread linked to on here is actually very eye opening and helpful!

Sadly opportunities for meeting people are a bit limited in my life right now but I would rather just meet people the old fashioned way, so much nicer and easier to navigate! Not sure if I'm really cut out for modern dating 😞

He just wants a shag and realised that you want more than that so has moved on. Take it as a compliment he was a dick.

Hi OP, the same thing happened to me. I tried OLD and was chatting to one guy for a few days. He actually seemed nice and normal (compared to others). I suggested meeting and he was keen. We arranged a date then he cancelled on the day of the date (excuse was he had a bad cold). Obviously I knew straight away it was an excuse. He then blocked me! I was quite shocked at the time but now I've had a bit more experience, I realise that so many men have no intention of meeting. They go with the flow and then panic at the last minute. Its either that or they have a partner/wife or they've just gotten back together.