Survivors Of Narcissistic Abuse

[Renarde1975]

Hey all

Have been frequenting these boards under various guises since my DD1 was very small indeed. Last year, I underwent what is called 'weaponisation' at the hands of an author called H G Tudor. I finally realised who I am and why I am targeted the way that I am.

It was a revelation. I am already an author and writer myself on very sex positive topics, usually on BDSM and keeping safe. But this was different.

I am posting here MN because I need your help. I want to create a charity and it's called SONA - Survivors Of Narcissistic Abuse.

Trouble is; I don;t know where to start. Thats why I need help.

Bit about me. Physics background and am a teacher (A Level Physics). Writer as mentioned. But on charity work? Not a fucking clue.

Please help MN, if you can.

Bumping x

I don't know what to suggest but I'd be happy to help somehow. Perhaps approach Refuge for advice?

Thanks @Chips, never thought of that. X

What are the aims of your charity going to be? The charities commission is really OTT about the wording charitable aims.
I know the whole Narc thing is very trendy right now but practically what support are you offering? Are people self referring? Are GPs or other professionals referring? What exactly is the definition of Narc Abuse? What does support entail?

I think that is a great idea, but you do need to think through your aims and charitable objectives.

This may be helpful from a planning perspective: www.gov.uk/setting-up-charity

This too:
www.cafonline.org/charities/strategic-consultancy/how-to-start-a-charity

and this:
www.smallcharities.org.uk/starting-new-charity-faqs/

The authors books look interesting so thank you for bringing his work to my attention
But sorry I have no idea about charities

Hi all

Thanks for links and responses.

The aims of the charity are to provide telephone and email support to people who feel that they have been abused. A safe space there they can talk to someone else who has experienced it. In the beginning, this will be offering telephone consultations and asking them for a donation to a gofundme campaign.

Sounds like a great project.

Will the people they are talking to be professionals or just people with similar experiences? Will there be training available for volunteers? The Samaritans for e.g offer a 6 months training scheme where volunteers shadow and are mentored by more experienced volunteers before they start taking calls.

Abused people may come under the vulnerable beneficiaries group for charities. So what will the safeguarding provisions be? Will you be working with other safeguarding organisations? Will they be referred on if they choose to see someone?

With all the safeguarding issues in the charity sector nowadays, you will need to have a really good system in place to protect both trustees and beneficiaries

the H G Tudor character is certainly prolific!
you tube
www.youtube.com/channel/UCge1h5fEmC4sU1fN6TgevIA
numerous books
and the blog
narcsite.com/author/malignnarc/

H G Tudor and Vaknin are the most prolific writers on the subject.
Their critics say they are making money off abused people which is true from a certain perspective.
Most professional psychiatrists and psychologists are very slow to use that label, as a level of narcissism is important for a healthy psyche and recent studies suggest NPD is not as prevalent as earlier studies suggest.

But that is digressing Technically you can set up a charity for anything. So as this one has helping people suffering at its core it's a good cause.

Having set up various charities I know for a fact that whether it works or not will depend on the aims and safeguarding policies.

Maybe a good place to start is to look at the other mental health charities and their aims and safeguarding policies. The last thing you want is putting trustees at risk not to mention the beneficiaries