Hi
I started a thread last year called My Husband Hates me.
Well on the back of my original post, I did the typical trait of an abused person and took him back and did numerous times after that until one point in November 2017 when I just had enough. He was stealing off me, selling my stuff, borrowing money all for crack and heroin. I regularly found used tin foil in his pockets.
Anyway, last year I met up with a friend one Saturday and spent the day with her as you would with a friend....well when i get back home I was accused of cheating, called a dirty slag and this went on for the whole weekend. I took a the following Monday off work ill as I was so drained anyway he turned back up at the flat at about 12pm that day (he was meant to be at work). Well when he got back he was convinced there was another man in the flat and he assaulted me....well that was the final straw for me and the marriage was over, the police were called and he was kicked out. He did come back a few days later and took all the furniture.
During the past year my depression escalated and i continued to get abuse from him via emails and texts.
Fast forward a year and I am in a new relationship with someone who isnt abusive, my depression is improving and I have lost 4 stone and embarked on a new healthy lifestyle. I realise now that I was in abusive relationship, that it wasnt me with the problem it was him and everyday I feel physically and mentally stronger.
What I am trying to say is things do get better so my advice to anyone in a similar situation is to get yourself out, get help and support from family, friends, your GP, your employer, organisations.
Now I am looking forward to the new year with my new partner (and the Bon Jovi tour next year)
Thanks