My Dad is a narcissist. Everything is about him. I’ve never really had a close relationship with him and he never contacts me and when he does he just uses passive aggressive emotional blackmail
For context my mum died in January - when the doctor said that she only had a few hours to live - he sent me a text telling this. I live two hours drive away.....
He doesn’t call me, doesn’t remember my birthday (I am his only child ) and does not remember my sons birthday.
Yet he expects to be called every week as I am the children and it is my duty.
There is much, much more and this has contributed to the depression that i currently suffering from.
I have been signed off work and put on anti depressants.
I have tried very reduced contact over the last 6 months - talking to him just makes me feel like shit but then I feel immense guilt when I don’t talk to him. I also don’t want to spend Xmas with him- it will be miserable and my husband would probably divorce me if I asked Dad.
To try to aid my recovery I have sent him a text this morning saying
Hi dad. I'm
Sorry i am not going to ring for a while. I have been signed off work with depression and been given anti depressants and feel very unwell at the moment. I just need to shut the doors and just look after myself for a while. I am also sorry that I can't invite you for Christmas but we will come up the weekend before Xmas to see you .
Despite this he has tried to ring me twice this afternoon- he hasn’t rung me in more than 6 months.
This has triggered a huge anxiety attack and don’t know what to do.