Can I see this date again but as a friend?

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I went on a first date last night. We'd been chatting online for about a week and I wanted to meet him quite quickly based on experience of building things up online and then the reality being different.
Anyway the date was so much fun. He was hilarious and brought out my funny side. We spent the whole evening laughing and talking. The time flew by and I didn't want to leave when it was time to. I really enjoyed his company and he said as much to me. He said he'd like to see me again and he'd leave the ball in my court.
However I didn't feel any attraction towards him whatsoever. I didn't want to kiss him, like even the tiniest little bit. If this had been a bog standard date I'd be saying thanks but no thanks and bye. But we got on so well that I feel I want to see him again....but as friends.
Is this something that can actually be done or is it just a nice fantasy? I'm trying to figure out if I can send a text that doesn't sound completely patronising asking him if he'd like to meet up again but keep things platonic. Is it a kick in the teeth? Anyone have experience of this?

Yeah I don't see why it's not possible, as long as it's mutual. I have lots of friends and am not actively looking for more, but it's always nice to meet a new, respectful, fun male who you can laugh with. They're few and far between in my life to be honest.
Anyway second date next week and I guess I'll take it from there...

Update - second date was tonight. I'm SO glad I didn't say I wasn't interested and I just wanted to see him platonically because the second date was incredible and I'm suddenly very attracted to him!

Oh wow... sounds promising. What was the difference?

I couldn't tell you to be honest. We've been texting all week and he's been making me laugh so I was kind of warm to him already. Tonight he went in for a kiss and I felt this overwhelming attraction to him!

Pretty much every time I have managed to get into some sort of relationship it’s because the girl has gone on a second date with me. They have even told me they didn’t feel anything on the first date.

Don’t know what it is about the vibes I give out on a first date but I never seem to be able to convey the ‘spark’ or ‘chemistry’ women are looking for which is why I fail so often at that first hurdle. Maybe this guy is similar to me and you did give him that chance.

Excellent!

Ok I’ve seen the update that you are now attracted to him, but I completely disagree with everyone saying you can’t make friends from OLD.

Two of my very good male friends I met on Tinder! Two years later we’re still friends. There was zero physical attraction but we got on so well. One now has a girlfriend and I regularly see them both. I don’t understand this ‘I have enough friends’ attitude tbh, surely it’s always nice to welcome new people you get on with into your life?

He may say yes but he won't rush to see you again, if ever. He will get on with dating. Friendship with a woman he's spoken to a few times and only met once won't be a priority.

Agreed johnnyfinland

Richdeniro he said he was bricking it on the first date but much more comfortable last night. I suppose that has an effect on the vibe one gives off!

Yeh I met someone last week, they had arrived early and had couple drinks..
Bit annoying, but was fine.
I was surprised they felt they needed a drink though, must have been nervous.
I may meet them again and see if they are more chilled out 2nd time.
I am nervous and cautious and awkward, but that is life.

Its very rare to have a laugh for me on a first date, like get on so so well.
It just never happens. A few smiles max and that tends to be fake.

I quite like making new males friends, but it my experience, none have lasted beyond a couple of years, people move on or things just faze out, esp if one of looking for a proper relationship.
But nice to have a friend to meet up with and do things, without the mind games or wondering where things are headed.

ahhh glad it went so well, best of luck with it!

Yay! Humour is very very sexy.

When I met my H I can honestly say he wasn’t my usual type at all but he was witty, intelligent, talented , well read and not bad looking and I realised I had conditioned myself to a certain ‘look’

Interesting point about conditioning yourself to a certain look. True for me too.
3rd date tonight!

Just caught up on this!!! So pleased you went on that second date - I definitely warm up to someone the more I get to know them.