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Can you be friends with XP's???

12 replies

mother2b · 21/06/2007 14:24

? just wondering because i bumped into both of my ex's a while ago was friends with them but eventually both of them have tried it on with me

Can't you just be friends with an ex without them trying to get in your pants?

i have a DP and they both knew this and knew that i was happy with him but nonetheless still sent messages like 'want some no strings fun' (to which i replied'DP wouldn't like that')

I HAVE DONE NOTHING TO LEAD THEM ON!

OP posts:

HappyDaddy · 21/06/2007 14:34

They are arseholes. My ex still thinks I want to get back with her, 7 years after we split.

She's mental though.

Wisteria · 21/06/2007 14:38

My ex and me split 7 years ago
We can still have a laugh and a joke and put the dcs first, I would like to be friends but I don't think he can.
One XP I had was still texting me like that 5 years after we split, I have recently found out why he stopped - he moved to Dubai!!

HappyDaddy · 21/06/2007 14:43

Wisteria, no need to roll eyes. I haven't spoken to my ex in 5 years. I get messages through my solicitor or grapevine stuff from my mum.

NoodleStroodle · 21/06/2007 14:45

Oh HappySaddy - what did you do to her?

Never have anything to do with X's on the grounds I might try to relive the past...

NoodleStroodle · 21/06/2007 14:45

D D D D Daddy!

Piffle · 21/06/2007 14:47

yeah my exp is ds1's dad and he often comes to stay with dp and I and ds1 plus mine and dp's ds2 and dd.
Also found out exp and his gorgeous girlfriend have a new baby due in Dec and we are all very excited.

HappyDaddy · 21/06/2007 14:48

I did nothing. After 5 years of no contact, apart from chasing her to release money she should have released years ago, she contacts my solicitor asking for my phone number.

Then complains when I said no.

Wisteria · 21/06/2007 14:48

HD - that's shite

HappyDaddy · 21/06/2007 14:49

She's sad. You'd think she'd move on after meeting new bloke 2 years ago and having another baby. But no.

Bless her.

Wisteria · 21/06/2007 14:50

Piffle - that's lovely - wish we could be like that but he just runs away whenever I try to make polite convos, if it's not about dc's he just walks away...

Lullabyloo · 21/06/2007 14:51

yes..i am
It took a while as I was very hurt ..but 13 yrs later we are very close friends.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 21/06/2007 14:52

DH's ex is part of a group of people we go on holiday with and I am pretty confident there is no attempted-pant-getting on either side. Mind you we all have several small children so are far too knackered.

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