I am new mum, my little boy is 7 weeks old. My ex partner and i split near the begining of my pregnancy but he attended the scans and appointments. He was due to take on the childcare of our child so i work shifts around his work schedule.
I went into labour and he was with me and was staying with me on the sofa bed. At 2am he left me in labour at my house and then ghosted me, completely ignored my calls and messages. I had no family or closw friends nearby so my family had to travel from 5 hrs away and i nearly ended up giving birth alone.
The day i came out of hospital i saw he had changed his profile pic to him, his two children from another relationship and his wife (from whom he has been separated from for nearly 5 years and is divorcing). Apparently her finding out, i was having a baby prompted her to give him another chance.
Since then his attitude to me and my baby has completely flipped. Hes being unreasonable with money, made me do an dna test before he would pay anything and only saw our baby on the day of the dna test.
He now refuses to contribute to childcare for when i go back to work despite him earning more than double what i do. The childcare for our son is over £1000per month for me to work full time and his maintenance contribution is 400 pcm.
So now i face having to quit my job, go part time, release the equity from my flat or move to be able to make the situation work as he refuses to care physically for our child or contribute financially. Is it me or is this grossly unfair?