DD break up at uni

[Federica23]

Hi, advice on if I did the right thing here, please....a bit of a minefield re mental health.
DS unhappy in first term at uni then 6th form college first love dumped him a few weeks ago. Ended badly after night together but before leaving she said she still loved him, so DS not sure if permanent break or if hope for the future. DS spiralling into depression as leaving his uni anyway, so I txted her to ask to speak, so I could understand and help him get over it. She agreed, we talked, it was awks but ok, I made clear no blame. She explained did love him but rel going downhill and too difficult to travel between unis, so not worth continuing. It was helpful to me and I said thx. Was that bad of me to call her? I wouldn’t have done it if DS was ok at uni and just sad at being dumped but things seemed more major.

Hi OP I think it's a bit strange to get involved in the breakup to this extent tbh. Your DS is an adult and he will come to terms with the breakup without his mummy getting involved. You seem a bit overinvested. Does he know that you spoke with his ex? I would've been furious about something like this at his age tbh.

If either of my parents called an ex of mine, I would be furious. Your son is an adult. Your job is to support him when he needs it but not to get involved or interfere. What you did is definitely interfering and you totally overstepped.

I understand how you feel OP but I think you need to step back and be quietly supportive rather than heavily involved.

Massively overstepped the boundaries there OP.

If my mum had done something like that I would've been furious. In fact, it would've deterred me from telling her anything in future - therefore closing any lines of communication.

There's being supportive and there's being controlling and overbearing.
You'll end up pushing him away.

I’d be mortified if my parents did this. I understand you want to help but this is just weird. You’ve really overstepped a boundary and stuck your nose into something that was none of your business. Take a step back.