Any advice welcome. My husband and I had been together for 16 years, carried for 4. We have a little boy who is 2 and half. Last year, after my husband had been out of work for 8 months and not looking, out every night and generally not pulling his weight, I asked him to leave. I was finding it extremely hard to cope with working, a young child and a husband who couldn't do anything. I now realise he was depressed but at the time couldn't cope.
He still came round every day to see our son and we did everything together as a family (he even came to do the shopping with me). I asked him to come back a month ago. He told me he'd just started seeing someone else, but it wasn't serious and that he'd waited a year for me to tell him i still loved him and wanted him back, but he had met someone. Now he has moved in a new place with her (and her 2 children). They have been together for 5 weeks. He is there when her children aren't (she has joint custody) as he hasn't met them yet.
He seems torn - and looks really sad when he's here. He seems angry at what I've told him and all over the place.
I really miss him and now he has someone else in his life he's not coming around so often and won't do anything if it involves me. Until 5 weeks ago you wouldn't have know we weren't a proper family.
My little boy is devastated and misses Daddy and feel the same. I feel like the bottom has fallen out of my world and our little boys. The reality of him not being here has just hit home and I've realised how much i love him still. Because he was here every day before I didn't think about what was actually happening..Now I feel sooo lost. I don't know what to do with myself