Anyone who has suffered emotional abuse and a thank you to MN

[Foxtrottingtango]

I’ve NC and have a new account following a few threads about emotional abuse at the end of last year.

I want to say thank you to MN and tell those going through emotional abuse that it does get better.

I left the low life and my life is so much better for it. What I thought began as little comments were in fact huge signs that he was a contrilling nasty piece of work. He made me lose my spirit and my happiness and my confidence.

Even now, almost a year later, I am horrified that I let myself be treated that way. I can honestly say that I pity any woman who ends up with him.

To all those going though this, know that NO abuse, no matter how minor it may seem, is ok. You deserve to be respected and treated well. No exceptions.

Thank you to everyone on here who helped me. I’m single - feeling like I may not meet someone now - but SO much happier than I was in the wrong relationship. I’m me again.

Xxxx

Thank you so much for posting this, this is exactly what I needed to hear today.

I’m so glad to hear you are free and happy, this has put a smile on my face

Another one here grateful you have posted. It's wonderful to hear!

I'm 7 weeks on from splitting with my emotionally abusive ex - I finally found out the evidence he was cheating and left. I don't pity the OW, though..because I think if he does the same to her then she deserves everything coming to her.

Other than that, I am looking forward to moving into my new home in a few weeks time and I'm enjoying the liberation of being free from him. I think I'll relish being single for a fair while as I have zero interest meeting someone else at this moment in time. I know that may change in the future, but I just want to concentrate on me and my family.

MNers flagged up that my ex was at best sexually assaulting me. It took a long long time to sink in and to start to believe his threats. I am now finally divorced and undergoing therapy amongst other things. Phew!!

Thank you for posting and well done for getting yourself out of that situation
I left an emotionally abusive relationship at the beginning of the year, I have met somebody else now and I've just got myself a new job and a flat etc. I move out of my parents' house a week on Saturday.

I am another testament that things get better. I thought I'd be trapped there forever. He had worn me down to almost nothing and I really thought there'd be nothing left of me. I too have MN to thank for people opening my eyes that what was happening really was abuse.

Thank you for posting. I left 4 months ago. It’s hard as we have 2 v small dc. I know it will get better but it’s lovely to hear from someone out the other side x

I know it’s easy for me to say now and when others said it and I was second guessing myself and tying myself in knots trying to understand him I didn’t really believe I would ever move past it. I even blamed myself!!

I’m not perfect by any means but I now know with certainty that he was a truly awful person. Being kind I can say that he had his own problems but that doesn’t excuse it.

I am so happy with my life now and I honestly didn’t for one second think I would feel like this a year ago. Hand on heart I wouldn’t go near him again if he turned up on my doorstep and begged for forgiveness.

Anyone going through this, just stay strong. I found that just getting through each day was worth celebrating at the start, even if I didn’t feel like I was making any progress. Day by day you will suddenly realise you’re better than the week before etc.