Why is my ex and baby's father so negative towards me

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Hi there I'm just wondering if anyone has or is in the same boat as me

My baby's father split up with me the 4th September and it was alright at the start and now he's being so negative and trying to argue constantly about wee silly things that don't need to be argued about

He works 4 on 4 off so now back to work the way it works out is I'll take babu when he's working and I'll work round his shifts when he's off so he can take the baby but he'll text me saying he's not taking him because I don't start work till later that day and he'll pick him up in the morning baring in mind I've been doing half 6 starts in the morning.

I talk about coming down to my mums for an hour or 2 to see our son open his parents but he insists in taking him Boxing Day instead.

Maybe I've just got the perfect image of a family and trying to co-parent ?

I try my best to make it work and give M the best life with us being his mum and his dad not in a relationship way as I've now put into my mind we aren't together and not going to be together but he's acting so childish about things and trying to argue about the smallest things ?

What should I do as its very frustrating and making me stressed now when I can't rely on him all of the time to take our son.

We were never in a bad relationship , we just argued when baby came and just unfortunately never worked out so I don't understand why he's trying to shut me out of his life now.

Message edited by MNHQ to remove name

It sounds like you want a relationship with him still which he's not into (even a platonic one) it sounds like he wants to see his child on his own instead of with you and your family. It also sounds like he feels like he wants to enjoy being single and not do so much "baby sitting" (lots of men think they're doing us women a favour by looking after their own child for some reason)

Go through the courts to hammer out an access agreement. If he doesn’t stick to it go through the courts again. It sounds like you’re in a relationship with him without the fun parts!

I can't rely on him all of the time to take our son

This is why you need a properly agreed access arrangement. Get some legal advice.

Hi OP, we're just letting you know that we've edited a name out of your post as it could be identifying.

He's entitled, self absorbed and one of the very many dick heads currently inhabiting this sceptred isle.
Find your inner warrior and basically, tell him to eff off.
You deserve a real man in your life....one you genuinely cares for you and adds to not detracts from your happiness.