With ex 23 years, married 16. 2 young adult DC. Part of my unhappiness in the marriage was H's feelings towards DS, now 21. H loved DS but didn't seem to "like" him or make any attempt to understand him or get to know him. He had me in tears one-day when he said he wasn't proud of him as there was nothing to be proud of. DS is a wonderful, empathic young man who is socially a little awkward but is just fantastic. H constantly moaned about DS because he wasn't outgoing enough, didn't go to parties, lads holidays etc.etc. Both DC said they didn't mind when H left as he hardly spoke to them anyway and when he did, it was to moan at them. They both say the house is happier without him there.
So fast forward to 4.months since H left for his OW, and DS is his new found best mate. Takes him out all the time, always phoning him to see what he's up to, agreeing to get him things that he was previously forbidden to have. I know it's good for DS to have a better relationship with his dad but I can't help but feel a little pissed off. H tends to not ask DD along to these boys days/nights out which upsets her and DS doesnt exactly want to hang out with his mum! So I get all the parenting while he gets to be Disney dad. I am scared of "losing" DS and am dreading the OW getting trotted out to meet them in the not too distant future.
So I know IABU .....So how do I make peace with this and just be happyfor DS?