Feeling lonely

[pickledolive]

Just that really. I feel incredibly lonely . I have no real friends just acquaintances really . No one to go out with . I have a partner but he works away and 4dc but I feel completely lost and empty. I'm a nice person I promise and will do anything for anyone but just never seem to click with anyone .

I'm in similar position. Two children, partner works away weeks at a time, lots of associates who I keep in touch with via social media, but no real "friends". I had a very large group in my early 20s, but we've all married and had children and gone our separate ways. I wouldn't say I'm lonely, I actually love my own time and space, but a night out every now and again or a good natter wouldn't go a miss. Chin up OP x

Check out "Meetup " lots of social groups you could join.

I've never had many friends and was bullied a lot when I was a child which I think has affected my adult relationships .i just feel down about it all.

I was bullied too, but if anything that made me understand a lot about friendships - and the value of them. And I feel disappointed in myself that I've let those go due to all parties not having the time for each other when our circumstances changed. I also work 40 hours a week so you'd think I'd have friends from there too, but with no childcare on an evening and weekends, I miss out on social outings there too 😞

Sometimes i feel invisible and that people wouldn't notice if I wasn't here any more.

Before you go down that thought alley... there are at least five (and almost certainly more) people who would "notice". That kind of talk is worrying. Please have a good think about talking to a professional if you're feeling so low.

I just don't want to feel unwanted and lonely anymore. Don't know why people don't like me. I've never fell out with anyone or argued . People just don't like me .

Sending hugs olive xx

I'm sure that's not the case you sound as if you're lacking in self esteem

Do you have any family around...how old are dc?

They range from 14 down to 4. No not much family and no one will have all them unfortunately. They are hard work when all together .

To be honest you sound rather depressed. I suppose having a life dedicated to kids most of the time coupled with an absent husband AND with past trauma, is a pretty nasty combination.

Depending on how bad you feel you might want to consider getting more professional help. Might be worth considering a hobby, something involving local groups with similar interests to yourself. And it couldn’t hurt getting to know people around here too. Looks as though there are quite a few people in a similar position who could do with companionship.

I hear you OP. I feel exactly the same. Made worse by my own family making little effort with me either. Not sure how I got into the position of being so lonely all of the time. It’s exhausting

Some of us are just like that, op. I sympathise. If I lived near, I'd be your mate and go out with you occasionally .

You do find a lot of people who have a big social circle but when the chips are down, no real friends. It's also possible to have lots of people around you and still feel lonely.

Be independent! You are a worthy person.

Might be worth seeing if you could do a college course in the daytime while the dc are at school....( use the 15 hours of free childcare for the youngest?) it would give you a chance to meet new people and build self confidence.

maximum and pearl offered some good suggestions.

What's your relationship with your partner like when he's home...do you feel loved and appreciated?