Would you date this guy?

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So I've been chatting to guy that I matched with online for the last week or so via WhatsApp, we have arranged to meet this weekend for a drink.
Earlier this evening whilst discussing where to meet he said to me "where do you normally take your clients"?
I was 😳 and told him to f*ck off, he thought I was joking but quickly realised that I was less than impressed with what he'd said.
He apologised lots said he didn't engage his brain & I said I'd speak to him later.
He carried on messaging & apologising, I eventually replied & said that whilst I accepted that he may not have meant it, the fact that he said it alarms me & makes me think twice about meeting him. Wise mumsnetters what are your thoughts??

Nah. No investment in this yet, so not worth wasting your time.

Have you been joking around a lot and having similar "banter"? Or was it just out of the blue?

Well my initial thoughts are....

"Imbacile"

I guess it depends on whether you find that sort of humour attractive

Or did he mess up because you're a genuine professional (office government or consultancy job) and hadn't thought about how that would sound? I do take clients for meals... not those kinds of clients.

We've had banter but most definitely not along these lines

Is there any prior context such as you having a job which involves entertaining clients on a corporate level that you have discussed with him?

You've got nothing to lose by meeting up with him. He sounds genuinely sorry. However I'm a great believer in going with your gut instinct. If that's saying don't bother and you can't forget the comment I wouldn't bother.

@Closetbeanmuncher most definitely not attractive!!

Wouldn’t touch him with a ten foot pole.

@CrispbuttyNo1 @showmeshoyu he most definitely meant it in the context of calling me a whore I checked!!

From reading your post I think I'd need to know what your job was before giving a true answer.

If hospitality is part of your job with external clients... and you've been to nice places with them (and he was aware of this!) I'd maybe understand... but if not I'd give him a wide berth.

Unless you're allowed to choose where you go in which case give the guy a chance if there's no other red flags

Have you talked about going out places for business / corporate entertaining previously?

Its a bit sleezy, have you chatted on the phone, if so what did you think?

@Absolutelycluelessdater job not relevant he meant it in relation to me being a whore as if had a few other dates recently!

He is already testing the waters to see how much rudeness, put downs, crappy behavior you at going to be willing to put up with to date him. Is it some sort of ego boost for him that he can throw an emotional bomb like that and still get the dates? Who cares?

Who has time for that? Nope.

It's a very odd remark. Did he mean "where do you normally take your dates" but it came out as clients?

@Hellywelly10 we've spoken on the phone once it was ok, I'm always a bit reserved and try not to invest too much as I might look at him and think "nah" ( if we meet!!!)

Holy shit... I wouldn't give him the time of day then. As an opening salvo, that's crass to the extreme.

@RyderWhiteSwan it was on text not conversation he meant what he put

Seriously, why would you evening waste an evening meeting somebody who's already shown they're an idiot. Raise the bar and find someone better.

@showmeshoyu that's what I'm leaning towards!

Oh in that case, nah. Off he fucks!

It also shows his default stance on what he thinks of women. In my opinion at least...

He's testing your boundaries. I'd advise you to pass.

@showmeshoyu funny, that is exactly what I said to him!