Throupling

[BeenieMan]

Having read so many anxious posts on here about infedelity and cheating I'm wondering if the problem can be solved by turning it around and placing it on it's head?

I've wondered if this could help? throupling

There are a load of immediate benefits:

1. "I wonder if he's cheating" - Solved, everyone knows where they are
2. "He doesn't do anything around the house" - Solved, more people to help
3. "AIBU?" - Solved, you have more people to discuss things with

In fact when Ceaser attempted his invasion of Rome it was normal to find 3 or 4 women living with 1 or 2 men. It meant that the children had parents at all times, even after wars, conflicts or diseases thinned out the adult population.

Thoughts?

I have a higher opinion of most men than that.

My initial thought is 'How did that ugly sod manage to snare those two gorgeous women?'

I am very shallow though.

Yes! I'd love to have 2 men at once......er oh wait

Why assume it should be 2 women and 1 man op hmm? Sexist

And do women get to have multiple husbands as well or just the men?

I suspect there's probably relationships out there of x2 men & 1 woman. But honestly, you'd want to two snore machines in your bed at night?

So, because some men cheat, are selfish and don't pull their weight, they should get two wives to do more for them?

For fucks sake.

I could do with at least 4. 1 man for the cleaning another for childcare 1 to do garden stuff and one as my lover. My life sorted

Recraft maybe he's hung like a horse?!

I generally think that non-monogamy is more pragmatic and has a lot to offer that monogamy doesn’t; but throupling always strikes me as just all the negative and dislikeable bits of a monogamous couple relationship, but with more people and thus more complications.

But honestly, you'd want to two snore machines in your bed at night?

Honestly I'd rather have zero than one cheating cunt who thinks I'd be OK with letting him have a g/f aswell....but that's just me Luckily my DH is neither a snore machine or a cheating cunt so I'm all good thanks

I expect most women would rather have less husbands and more babysitters, cooks, cleaners, drivers & providers. As for men, they'd want less wives and more lovers.

I'd be happy alone if I could afford a handyman and had a friend to go on holiday with.

Have you been reading this?

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Fewer, not less, wives/husbands. Sorry, just jesting. But someone is going to say it...

A man being able to keep his bits in his pants kinda a basic requirement for me so pass...

....Imagine if they both came down with man flu at the same time

Do you not have even the slightest clue about the reasons why people cheat?

Because they can. Because they are attracted to someone else. Because the deceit is exciting. Etc etc.

A person inclined to fidelity will stay faithful to both their partners in a throuple.

A cheating cunt will fuck around on them both. 🤷🏻‍♀️

when Ceaser attempted his invasion of Rome
Whut?

1. Caesar
2. Crossing the Rubicon was not actually an invasion
3. Relevance is...?

Caeser attempted to invade Rome?

Clearly you are from an alternate reality. In which your other point might make some sense too.

Louis Theroux's recent thing on poly relationships really put me off. Very cringe. I think open relationships- go for it. Makes sense to me.

Commiting to more than one person is making things harder not easier. Just work some overtime now and again and get someone in for the extra childcare/housework.

And get down to the local swingers for the threesomes and what have you.

Even in cultures where polygamy is allowed, it isn’t encouraged unless the man can promise equal attention and resources to both wives and that just isn’t possible. You may be fond of both but you definitely would only love one of them and that just engenders bitterness. It’s why divorce is so high in the Islamic world.

I also have a solution to this problem.
So im in a coupling with a man who:
Is unable to deal with the required level of male responsibility.
Is to selfish or lazy to keep me sexually satisfied.
Who, for what ever reason, is unable to adaquetely co parent and take an active paticipation in raising his children.
I think i have that right.
My response would not be to agree to him involving a 2nd or 3rd woman
Why would i, just so that he can then disappoint both of us outlined in the ways above.
My response would be to dump his useless arse and find an actual (adult) man who could do all of those things while keeping his dick out of other women.

Cherries101 - when you say "divorce is so high in Islamic world" is that a factual statement backed by real data or just cognitive bias?

Traditions, rituals together with Societal and cultural barriers have made it exceptionally hard for married couples in the Islamic world to file for divorce. According to ONS rate of divorce per 1000 married men/women was 8.4% with 42% of marriages ending in divorce. If you look at crude Divorce rates (CDR) across the world you will note that the west easily trumps the Islamic world, Jordan has the highest CDR in Islamic countries with 2.6 per thousand which is still lower that UK which is around 2.8 (similar to euro zone) whereas US has one of the highest at 4.8