Ok, I realise that what I have done was really REALLY stupid and I’ve got myself in a mess. Over 10 years ago I signed a marriage certificate without anybody knowing. My H was not from the UK and when he got back home he could not have a visa to come back. At the time we were in love and I was told by my H that he would of been killed if he stayed in his country. I did this for him as I loved him (how stupid was I) we were then going to have a proper wedding when it was the right time.
Cut a long story short I cannot stay with my H anymore. He has a very short temper and shouts at me, he gets verbally very aggressive and I’m scared of him. He shouted at me on the day we signed the certificate and I should have opened my eyes. He treats me like a slave, but he does go work. He is very controlling of the money I spend (which is very little) when he sees the statements he demand to know what I spend it on (always my little girl) I just can’t take it anymore, I feel like I’m loosing myself, I’m always watching what I do and say incase it sets him off. He tells me he loves me but I can’t see that he does. I have told him twice that I want to separate but he keeps telling me that he will tell my family what I did in signing the marriage certificate. I don’t know what to do, it would really really hurt my parents and I love them dearly. I felt that I couldn’t tell them about my H before as my mum has an illness triggered by stress and I didn’t want I make her ill. I’m so trapped I can’t live like this.
I realise I have done this myself.