Owe ex money, long story. Help.

[Monica2005]

Quite long winded, apologies. The father of my unborn baby decided to leave, wanting nothing to do with baby. While we were together he gave me £150 as my wage and housing benefit got screwed one month. I immediately refused it, sent it back and he sent it back to me again, insisting I accept it. So I did, he said to pay him back when I have it and that he wasn't bothered if I didn't at all if it came to that. Fast forward to him deciding to leave, he demands the money back, in what I can only say was a tantrum. I didn't have it all, so I sent him 40 which was all I had in my bank account. He calmed down, sent it back. He then decided he wanted nothing more to do with me, demanded I post his things to him, which I did. Haven't heard from him in nearly two months after he told me that he felt like hurting himself and I told him to seek help. Today I recieved a message staying he's waited long enough, he wants his money regardless of 'what has happened', and to not bother replying as he's blocked my phone number. It's almost Christmas, I don't have the money to spare, I have a four year old to support as well as myself and need to buy things for the baby. I feel I need to pay it back. I just can't afford it. What can I do?

Don’t pay it back. Doesn’t sound likely he is going to be paying maintenance

He's the father of your unborn child and he's demanding money from you? Um you should be getting money from him surely?

Don't pay it back. You attempted it once and he sent it back to your account and told you he didn't want it.
Sounds like he's trying to get you stressed or upset and have you on his string if he knows you can't afford it.
Or tell him he can deduct it from the future child meintanance he will be paying if he's that desperate to get it back.

Firstly, no, don't pay him back. He has a responsibility of care for your baby. He should be paying YOU money, not hassling you. Besides reading between the line there is no formal contract signed thus he is not entitled to a penny legally.

Then I would be get in touch with the courts to enforce child maintenance. What a miserable excuse for a human being he is. Meet a better class of man!

Ignore, don't pay.

I agree with every post, do not give him a single penny OP, you get yourself onto the CMS fast

Thank you, I have anxiety so it makes my worry 100x worse. I'm just scared he will rock up at my door. I don't know what I'd do.

Don't pay it back and go to CMS as soon as your baby is born. Don't tell him that you're making a claim either, don't give him any heads up in case he decides to quit his job or start hiding his earnings.

Thank you all. I'll try to hold my nerve x

Just block the cunt.
The second that child is born go to CMS
What a fucking waste of space

The agreement was that you would pay him back when you have the money.

You don’t have the money.

He can't just change the agreement that was made because he is upset/skint or whatever.

Maybe when he makes his first maintenance payment you can give him £150 back?

Don’t pay him back and don’t respond. Claim CMS as soon as the baby is born

Totally agree with all of the above, and don't give it a second thought, you've got enough on!
You don't have the money to give him- you need things for new baby- that's the only thing you should tell him as of now!
CMS when babies born OP and concentrate on you and your LO's.....ignore him-
Have you got some support around you?

I have support, I am just scared he will turn up at my door. Through all of this I have held myself so well, I haven't been rude to him or nasty in any way. I feel like giving up, I just don't know how he can be so heartless.

Tell him that you will be using it for stuff for the baby in lieu of a maintenance payment , what an arse!!