If your partner's grandparent died and they felt upset and bereft would you accompany them to the funeral to show your support - and also to condole with your in-laws family.
I'm asking because my father-in-law has died. My stepdaughter (in her late twenties) is grieving. When she visited last weekend - she had come to see him but he died while she was travelling towards us - she assured us that 'X (her husband) will be coming to the funeral.' It was clear that she wanted him there and also thought it was his duty to accompany her. She has accompanied him to many events involving his relatives. X, who is very ambitious. works in a highly paid job where it is expected that people will put in long hours. However, my impression is that his employers do also have some regard for important family events. Business focused bastards, but not total bastards, you might say
However, it now turns out that X/husband will not be coming. Apparently on the day after the funeral there is an 'important meeting' relating to a possible future promotion in his workplace and he feels that this promotion might be jeopardised if the didn't attend, on the grounds that he had a funeral to attend. My stepdaughter also said that X would be writing a letter of condolence/explanation to us. No such letter has arrived.
What would you think of X's behaviour?