I have a very, very good friend.
We share a lot. She helped me through a very difficult divorce and even more so in the aftermath of the emotional difficulties I've had since. Key point is that I am no longer with my abusive ex.
She tells me a great deal about her husband. Complaining about stuff, how she's 'in trouble' when she's late back from something, or how he expects her to be running the home/child when they both have full time jobs etc etc.
I don't think she's going to leave him, she shrugs and says it is what it is. I don't think she confronts him.
I don't know what to do to help, if anything.
I can simply listen. I can suggest things. I can tell her what I think of him, I could go Villanelle on him
But I've been there - telling others how awful my ex was but then doing nothing for years and years and years.
I don't want her to stop telling me stuff, it must help her in some way, but there is only so many times you can say "I'm sorry things are tough" without sounding like a cracked record.
I have told her before that I struggle to know how to respond, but then she backs off.
I don't know...maybe she should find someone other than me to off load to?
WWYD?