So I've liked a guy at the gym for over a year. Beginning of the year I thought he was quite flirty with me, told me I looked great, asked if I was single, said I was lovely, etc. I thought he was interested and was going to ask me out and he didn't but I thought he was a bit shy or wasn't sure if I was interested. So I texted him and asked him out but he said he'd just started seeing someone and couldn't.
I wasn't sure if it was an excuse but turns out he'd definetely started seeing someone. I carried on seeing him at the gym fairly frequently in the same classes and we'd chat and get on. Things didn't go as well with his girlfriend as he'd wanted it to and that's been cooler with his gf since the summer and he's definitely single as of a few weeks ago.
Then last week after class he asked if I wanted to go to the cinema with him that evening. We'd not eaten so ended up having dinner first and then the cinema. He didn't know what was on at the cinema so it's not as if he had a particular film he was desperate to see. As we left the gym someone who had clicked what was happening said to him "are you two going on a date" and he said no, we're just friends.
We had a great evening, we have loads in common and couldn't stop chatting over the meal. When I dropped him off back at his car there was no hint of him wanting to kiss me but I guess I was being equally reserved. He kind of gently elbowed me in my ribs and said he'd had a nice time. That was Weds.
Then Friday after a class he stayed with me and my two (female) friends for drinks at the gym after class and we were all chatting for a couple of hours. He had caught me at the end of class and asked if I was staying for a drink and I said I was but meeting my friends (who he knows) but was welcome to stay. So he did.
Then yesterday at the end of class I moaned to him that my friends weren't there and I normally have lunch with them on a Saturday. And he said he wasn't eating but would hang out with me while I had lunch. And again, we had a nice time chatting.
So part of me thinks he wouldn't be so keen to hang out if he wasn't interested. But he said it wasn't a date. Didn't make any sort of move. We get on really well but he's recently split up.....I don't think he's the sort of person who would use someone to make an ex jealous, etc but accept he could be lonely/sad and just wanting company?
What do people think? I can't ask him out again after already been blown out once.