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Bit of advice please for distressed 18week pregnant mum of 1 regardingy partner. Bear with me could be a long one.

4 replies

Scarlettwillow22 · 18/11/2018 17:29

Ok so have been with my partner 6 years. Every time we fall pregnant, 4 losses, 1 child and 18weeks along now, I catch him messaging other women, not a good kind of messaging ie asking to meet up etc. He never has met up with them as I've always caught him out at the messaging stage, call it women's intuition I just know when he's doing it, and what do you know, he's Upto his tricks again, asked him if he knew this person and he lied straight to my face saying no never heard of them, not possible as I actually know the person and she has shown me the messages he has been sending her, he does not know I know her mind. The difference this time round being he is now a long distance lorry driver so away for 5 days at a time so I have no idea what he's doing while he is away. Well my best friend has told me I should confront him and tell him all I know and kick him out and just carry on on my own as there is obviously no respect from him and I struggle to trust him, for obvious reasons. What do you guys reckon and please be as blunt as needs be, think I need the wake up call if I'm honest as I just keep forgiving him.

OP posts:
Maelstrop · 18/11/2018 17:55

Why are you with him and why did you decide to have a second child with him? Are there any benefits to your relationship given he must be away so much? Given the lack of trust, I'd find it hard to be with him.

Wolfiefan · 18/11/2018 17:56

Stop being a mug. You can’t trust this bloke. Get an STD test and get away from him.

Notacluewhatthisis · 18/11/2018 18:35

You are causing your own distress.

He is responsible for his actions. But you are responsible for staying and for keep having kids with him.

No doubt you feel more like you should stay because of the kids.

You are being a mug. Stop accepting this behaviour and stop putting yourself in this situation.

DaffydownClock · 18/11/2018 18:41

Oh dear OP, 6 pregnancies in 6 years and he's engaged in virtual (and possibly actual) affairs six times?
Just what do you see in being with a lecherous, lying cheat?
Surely you can do better than keep repeating the same disasterous scenario over and over again?

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