Feeling so lonely and isolated/an outsider from family

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Not sure if that's the right term really.
I live 200 miles away from my family including Dm/ds/ everyone aside from my children who live with me.
I moved when I was young and blinded by love.
Had my children, learnt how to juggle life without family support to depend on.
Always been close to my Dm and Ds inperticular visit during holidays but weekends are harder to do.
But if anyone rings to say I need help/you I'd do everything in my power to be there - I have many times as their my world.
When my Ds got married - I was bridesmaidI juggled work/ children to go 200 miles for dress bm shopping, didn't find anything did this with a friend again (no problem) drove down few weeks later for her dress fitting.
Hen do - I was dealing with a her mil who only wanted to do a certain thing so in the end the same friend organised it. I was hurt but carried on. I couldn't go on H/D as heavily pregnant and it was a weekend away (only 2 of us with dc)
Drove to be there for final dress fitting (with my 2 week old) to find out I wasn't involved in helping her dress into the dress.
This hurt - also no real reason for me to have made the journey when I'd of much preferred to be @ home in my pjs!
Anyway i carried on and the show went on and it was a lovely.
Que today - had messages about a baby shower from the same friend
inviting all to her house for cakes and games.
I can't do this due to it being late on on a weekend but I understand weekends are better for gatherings. Though feeling truly hurt that I haven't been asked to be involved in organising or even asked for suggestions.
Not sure if I'm just being overly sensitive with not living close though.
Not sure why I've posted really - to vent my frustration maybe? 😔

That did have paragraphs in, though i forgot to proof read!! Sorry for all of the typos! 😥

Is there anything that is stopping you moving back closer to your family?

Yes and no - My DC are happy and settled, my Dp (Dc dad).

Where we are has been my home for longer now than 'back home' was so to speak.
The area doesn't feel like home where my Family are anymore just enjoy spending time with them if that makes sence?

I don’t think your friends or family have behaved harshly or insensitivity but rather! you haven’t accepted that distance and other commitments have had an impact on your relationships with them. Are you really expecting the same dynamic when you are so far away?

It's hard to ask you to help organise things from so far away. It doesn't sound like they're deliberately trying to exclude you, just being practical.

Yeah as you moved away, there's going to be a different dynamic and it's never the same. I think you should try to build friendships where you live now and try make some local friends

Thanks for your comments.
Yes it is very much different dynamics being so far away, suppose with us still being close and talk about doing such and such things that I feel hurt when it doesn't happen as even with the long distance we do still see each other monthly.
I've lived where I moved for 20 years now, I have amazing friends but as much as they are amazing it doesn't replace my feelings for my family.