What does your relationship feel like?

[kafia]

How do you feel in your relationship? Do they make you feel loved? Do they talk to you about what's going on in their minds? Do you feel bored, do you feel in love still? How has it changed from the beginning of your relationship?
How often do you want to have sex with your partner?
What is normal? I am so confused and lost.

How do you feel in your relationship?

Happy and secure.

Do they make you feel loved?

Yes, every day

Do they talk to you about what's going on in their minds?

Yes: we generally know how the other is feeling.

Do you feel bored, do you feel in love still?

Not bored, very much in love.

How has it changed from the beginning of your relationship?

It's calmer, less frantic, we spend less time in bed, less time arguing!

How often do you want to have sex with your partner?

About 3-4 times a week.

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How about you, OP?

Everything about my relationship with DH is happy and content , for me and for him. Yes he makes me feel loved every day , and always has in the 15 years we've been together. Yes we tell each other what's going on. No I'm not bored, life is an adventure with him. In the beginning, hot sex and plenty of it, and lots of talk . Now, love and tenderness. Yes I still fancy him and he fancies me.

What is normal - whatever makes you feel safe, loved, trusting. That's normal to me. If I didn't feel those things I wouldn't be with him. My ex didn't make me feel any of those things so I left him. Life's too short to put up with a bad relationship. Good luck.

Pretty much rubbish on every front. Started off joyous enough but soon nose dived. I was going to get out of dodge but then she had a nasty accident and over night I became her career. She has no where else to go and needs constant support. Now that’s what I do. Care for her all the time. I can’t rememver the last time I felt loved and wanted or what sex even feels like. I don’t get any breaks I just work and care, care and work. I don’t get any support either. My only friend is whisky on the harder days but I can’t get too merry. So yeah. Sucks to be me.

Is this a Daily Mail reporter/question?

kafia

How do you feel in your relationship? Alright
Do they make you feel loved?
Sometimes
Do they talk to you about what's going on in their minds? Yeah
Do you feel bored, do you feel in love still? Bored yes, in love, I think so
How has it changed from the beginning of your relationship?
Less sex, less uncertainty, more comfortable
How often do you want to have sex with your partner? Maybe twice a month
What is normal? I haven't got a clue

How do you feel in your relationship? Happy and secure
Do they make you feel loved? Always
Do they talk to you about what's going on in their minds? Yes, usually
Do you feel bored, do you feel in love still? Not bored, completely in love
How has it changed from the beginning of your relationship?
More comfortable, more secure, more content, less ‘passionate’
How often do you want to have sex with your partner? 2-3 times a week
What is normal? What’s normal?

that sounds miserable @maximumcarnage

you are entitled to live your life and be happy you know.

Thank you for responses..
I just feel unsure as to how I should feel in my relationship.
No I'm not a reporter. I'm really scared and sad. I don't know what to do, I want to be with him but I also want to run away. I don't know if it's because I'm an introvert (extreme), because I'm depressed, because I have had such bad experiences of relationships, or if it's because it's not right.
I don't know what to do. I don't know how I feel.

I suppose my situation is pretty miserable. But at least I have a place to call home and food on the table. And the whisky doesn’t exactly hurt things. But what can you do? What you deserve isn’t necessarily what you get.

Mines is like he’s my best friend but I also proper fancy him. I still get butterflies sometimes, other times I’d happily see him out the door and wave.

We each have our own friends and our own thing going on but then we have family together (even as far as my parents who have taken him on after he went no contact with his abusive parents) which I personally find very important in our relationship, there is no normal, people do things differently and have different expectations so really hard to say what’s right and wrong.

Most important to us both is that we’re not jealous people and we both understand that we’re not perfect. I have bipolar and he has, what I (and he) suspect to be, an undiagnosed personality disorder.. we understand each other’s failings and support each other because neither of us are normal

Do you know what it is you're scared of, kafia ? Does your partner make you feel good about yourself?

How do you feel in your relationship?

Lonely

Do they make you feel loved?

Not really

Do they talk to you about what's going on in their minds?

Yes: Constantly. But not overly interested in what's going on in mine.

Do you feel bored, do you feel in love still?

Oh yes. If I have to hear about the dramas at the baseball club again, I will stab someone.

How has it changed from the beginning of your relationship?

I was under the impression that he liked and respected me, and that I was of value.

How often do you want to have sex with your partner?

It's been months.

This is going to sound very odd but it's the truth.
I have a perfect husband and it puts me out a little.
We are very much in love and happy and he makes me laugh every single day. (like every other marriage, we have the odd bicker but never full blown arguments).
He understands me like no one ever has and he supports me in every way possible.

My problem is that he's so perfect with everything, it makes me feel like I'm just not enough for him.
He brings so much to the relationship and in comparison, I don't bring an awful lot. I'm always asking him to sit back and relax and stop doing so much but he sees that as a criticism on who he is.

I always dreamed for a husband like him and never in a million years thought that there would be any sort of problem with someone being too perfect.
I am fully aware that the problem is with me - not him.
I either need to push myself to do a lot more or accept that this is the dynamic of our relationship.

In answer to the bedroom question, we have a young dd so we're normally too tired lol.
It can range from a few times a week to once every few weeks.

And I just realised that I didn't answer the questions! Lol sorry 🙈

How do you feel in your relationship?

Happy but doubt how worthy I am of him quite a lot

Do they make you feel loved?

Yes

Do they talk to you about what's going on in their minds?

Sometimes. He's a very private person and prefers to deal with emotions himself.

Do you feel bored, do you feel in love still?

Not at all.

How has it changed from the beginning of your relationship?

It's much more calm and stable. In the beginning it was that crazy infatuation that most relationships have. He was so romantic and we spent a lot of time in the bedroom.
Now we have a loving, trusting and stable relationship. We're a team.

How often do you want to have sex with your partner?

It varies massively depending on my energy levels and my health.

• do you feel bored? Not at all
• are you in love still? Very much so