Hey everyone!
I'm wondering if anyone can give me a opinion on this? I've been on 5 or 6 dates with the same guy (not gone beyond a kiss). It all seemed to be going ok, then a few days ago he pulled me up on the fact that I describe myself as vegetarian. In fairness I'm not veggie, I just choose not to eat meat. I eat fish now and again and if my son is home from uni and he orders a takeaway I might even eat chicken curry. Just on a daily basis I only tend to eat plant based food. I'm well aware of the differences between vegan, veggie and pescatarian but for ease of conversation I say I'm mostly veggie. So I said to him via text that I'd been "veggie" for months and that my daughter was mostly vegan (she wears leather items and has milk in her coffee twice a day if she doesn't feel like coconut milk). He came back with a massive rant which included "you can't be mostly vegan you either are or you aren't!" As well as calling me a muppet and ridiculous etc. Because I have a mad sense of humour I didnt think he was being off I took it as "banter" as they say! I said to him "what are you talking about?! Of course you can be vegan sometimes!" Teasing. But he kind of hit the roof and I really was joking and being light hearted. But he took huge offence to me saying what was he talking about and didn't believe me when I said I was teasing and laughing at myself, he was really offended. More ranting and I apologised for upsetting him. So then the next day was our date, he still didn't really believe I was joking and he said I say that now and that I always do it etc.... I was a bit shocked because it was really out of the blue this sudden change in him. Then he mentioned a suicide had happened in his family years ago, he knows the same has happened in mine. He asked me whos pain is worse the person who did it or the people left behind and I said I honestly just don't know. It's a really difficult one. I couldn't answer. So he jumped up and said I obviously thought the people left behind suffered more, said he'd had enough of me, he gives up on my stupidness, I never "get" anything, or understand anything and stormed out of the pub and just left me! Luckily I had my car and could get home. Then he was calling me and texting me straight away to apologise but I was still driving so then thinking I'd ignored him he texted me that I was just a muppet. I said I didn't want to throw insults around because it wasn't my thing and then the weirdest thing. He switched and texted me that he wanted to move on from our "row" because I was funny, caring, kind, sexy and he really values my opinions and loved spending time with me and would miss me. This was two days ago and I've been nice to him via text because I don't want him texting me being horrible. But I can't see him again obviously and right now I've blocked his number which feels really sheepish but I don't want to the hassle. It was just really confusing. Has anyone had this happen? And why suddenly switch to being nice? Thanks guys. X