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My first love

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miss793 · 18/11/2018 09:44

I don't think I'll ever get over this, it's been 8+ years since we broke up and in that time we've moved on had other relationships and children etc We're both now single and have found ourselves talking again, we both realise how much we loved each other in the past and how we'll never find love like ours again. It was the deepest most meaningful love I've ever experienced and clearly he feels the same. When I think about it get so sad and hurt that it ever come to an end, (was my fault I was too young and felt like I needed to be free and experience things so ended the relationship, I went on to travel the world like I wanted) I look back and think how could I throw away this amazing love that we had. No one will ever love me like he did.

Do you think it's wise to even talk to him? I think I'll get hurt I'd happily see how it went with us but he has made it clear he wants to be single for a while (just come out of a long relationship)

Will I ever get over it? It makes me so sad that I might not ever meet someone who loved me like he did, I've had boyfriends since but never loved them the same

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saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 18/11/2018 10:46

Hmmmm. Surely everyone's "first love" has a unique specialness? Usually you are young, selfish (in a good way), none of life's boring drudgery etc. If you are feeling a spark then fine - but don't try and recreate the past- that way madness lies and any relationship is doomed as you can never get that back.

saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 18/11/2018 10:49

He sounds sensible/ realistic tbf. If it is true love as you think, you can both do your own thing for a while then .make go.of it? If you are each other's "soul mate" (which I don't think exists,) then neither of you will meet anyone "better

miss793 · 18/11/2018 16:50

I think you're right, I think we're just in love with the past and the idea of it, it wouldn't be anywhere near the same now. I think I should just move on (which I have really) and leave the past in the past. Still makes me kinda sad though

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