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Connections that never die

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CartoonCat · 18/11/2018 07:00

Does anyone else have these - an interpersonal connection with someone else that never seems to die?

I saw an ex recently for the first time in over a decade and was shocked by how it felt like all that time had never passed, although in a bad way as he hurt me very much.

It feels like the connection never died, it just lay dormant that whole time. Which was a disappointing realisation to say the least!

Does anyone else have this with anyone?

OP posts:
WasFatNowThin · 18/11/2018 08:29

I saw an ex from over 25 years ago in May, all the feelings came straight back, I felt like I was 17 all over again.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 18/11/2018 08:39

I used to have this with an ex, we were "boyfriend and girlfriend" when we were both 12. He moved away and the next time I saw him I was 20. We instantly just got back together. It never worked out as he was flaky and I suspect a cheat.
Years later he got in touch and we drifted together again. I couldn't help it, it was like we were drawn together. By now I had children and in an unhappy relationship with someone else. He was a welcome distraction from that. Whenever my partner and I had "breaks" I would go to my old boyfriend.
He didn't treat me well though so after he disappeared this time I stayed strong and didn't reply to his random messages out the blue asking to meet, as much as I wanted to.
I eventually met my husband, fell in love for real and I realised my feelings for that ex were never real. I saw him working in a shop recently and I felt nothing at all, in the slightest.

TooOldForThis67 · 18/11/2018 10:55

I've posted on here about my MM. We worked together many years ago and developed a strong connection but nothing happened. We reconnected recently and had an affair about a year ago. I've tried NC but the connection is too deep. We still message. We are still friends. I don't feel the same about him but the connection is still there. I have a feeling he will be a lifelong friend.

babbi · 18/11/2018 22:02

Sad to say but yes ... I have a burning flame

FredMerc · 18/11/2018 22:09

My ex (relationship of 8 years from age 14) and I didn't see each other for 18 years, fb (instigated by me) met up as both single at the time. We have just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary and we have a 4 yr old DS Grin

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