Brothers ex

[SugarAndSpiceAndEverythingNice]

Hi all I would really like a outside view on this situation!

So my brother (29) and his now ex (28) were in a long relation ship through school college and uni. They were besotted with one another from day one cute I know any way he asked her to marry him she agreed and set a date for Dec 2020, they have been TTC for a few month.

Me and her work together as teachers in a secondary school, new head teacher comes a long and he was a good looking bloke. I started noticing things like flirty comments , sexual jokes spending their lunch breaks together. I mentioned this to my brother and he dint believe anything in was saying so we grow quite distant for 4 months.

So today he call me up saying we need to talk and I love my older brother I couldn't actually wait to see him. He tells me I was right all along she had been sleeping with this guy for months, and to top it's off she's PREGNANT!!! And that's not the end of it as she doesn't know who the dad is she wants both my brother and her boss to help but all the baby stuff!!!!

Obviously I'm gutted for him but I just can't get my head round it all, I'm not getting involed I'll be here to support him on what he chooses todo but I'll never speak to her again apart for work purposes of course.

Hopefully
A. He will dump her
B. Insist on a paternity test
C. Get an STI check
D. If the child is his take full responsibility

She must have watched Bridget Jones Baby too many times!

Can db work out if he is the dad?

Yes he's finished it he's told her doesn't want nothing to do with her, he'll have a dna when the child is born and if it is his fair enough he wants 50/50 care.
As they were TTC is going be hard to tell they were having sex at least 4 times a week my brother say
She isn't sure how for along she is yet.

Good on him for ending it!

She can find out how far along she is.

This is very difficult. I really feel for your brother.

But he needs to adjust his expectations. He is unlikely get 50:50 care of a newborn baby.

As difficult as it is, he needs to try and remain polite, at least. Because this could turn very messy and the child is the one that will be damaged.

Wow. Your poor brother. Support him by listening. I’d also recommend you look for another job and move away from those liars!

She's asking both blokes to contribute to the baby and she doesn't even know how far she is yet? She's got a bloody nerve! Tell your brother not to buy a thing until he has a DNA test, maybe putting money aside in the meantime, but do not advise him to give her a thing! Disgusting woman. Advise your brother to get an STI test too.