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40, divorced... how do I meet someone new?

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CarrieMayBe · 17/11/2018 21:20

Split with ExH 2yrs ago. Done the whole online dating thing, had a couple of brief relationships but really wasn't ready. Life is finally sorted and I'm desperate for some adult company.

Don't seem to be having any luck online, find people really hard to chat to or I'm easily put off. I know I'm picky, but only because I want to get it right this time. Was with Ex for 20yrs and I knew all along we really weren't right for each other.

Without blowing my own trumpet, I know I'm attractive. Slim, don't look my age, know I can find somebody but how? I don't go out much as all my friends are in relationships and never want to come out. I work with mostly females. I don't have childcare on weekday evenings so as much as I'd like to do something like salsa lessons, it's just not possible. ExH has kids at weekends so I have plenty of free time there. I just don't know how to meet someone. It's Saturday night, I'm childfree yet sat here drinking vodka. Alone.

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RhubarbTea · 17/11/2018 21:25

I'm 35 and in the same situation although I've only just started being ready to think about dating again 2 and a bit years after my last relationship. Not really sure how to meet someone and not keen on online dating - it just doesn't work for me, I prefer to befriend people before dating them. Some success with meetup but have made loads of new friends and nothing more!

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 17/11/2018 21:26

I say stick with online dating but with no pressure. There's no rush. The right person will pop up eventually, but broaden the range of people you talk to and go for men who you wouldn't consider your usual type.

CarrieMayBe · 17/11/2018 22:07

I've made a couple of really good friends through online dating, and I think one of the relationships I had may have lasted the course had I been in the right head space at the time.

Other than that, it's pretty dire. I can't help feeling there's a reason we're all single at this stage in our lives 😂

I would much rather meet someone in real life but have no real opportunity to do so.

I'm just so lonely and frustratingly, I had more luck when I wasn't really ready to move on than I do now the divorce etc is sorted!

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Aroundtheworldandback · 17/11/2018 23:21

It’s not as easy as “finding someone”, it’s finding someone really special who enhances your life. Another one advocating online dating. Took me 9 months but met dh after divorce at 38 and me with my kids now have a different life.

Be prepared to give it however long it takes, don’t settle- you don’t need to.

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