i'm frumpy, miserable and losing my labido - will i push DP into the arms of another?

[lucyellensmum]

I know this seems daft but i have turned into the woman from the beautiful south song - don't marry her, have me!!! You know, the one with the PhD in i told you so etc etc etc......I used to think i was the me, now im the her!!! So, if DP does leave me for another woman, with more motivation, a cheerier disposition and less flab? Its all my own fault, ridiculous i know but i can see it happening, i almost thinks he deserves the break,,,,if you see what i mean

HD

happydaddy!!!!! i'm clamping my fingers here trying not to type my initial response lol.

lotsofdaves, (you can never have to many imo) - i am going to set up nursery for september, part time at first then see how it goes. Would be great to get a part time job, something interesting and stimulating as apposed to financial.

Money is tight as DP is starting his own building business so i dont think me wasting his money on makeovers and new clothes would go down so well just at this moment in time. Also, girly i am not, maybe i should be!

The thing what gets me is this, i know he loves me, heaven knows ive given him enough shit this past year so he must do, but i know that if he were to meet me now, he wouldnt give me a second look.

Have you a sympathetic GP?HV? Because a check-up wouldn't hurt. THe symptoms you report are not totally dissimilar to mild depression or mild PND or even a slight thyroid problem (weigh gain, misery, tiredness).
OF course, they are equally likely to be due to lack of sleep and lack of much interesting to do, and the general grind of living with a toddler (yes, I know they are often lovely but day in, day out, it can get you down if you have no escape). You need a little bit of childfree time every week, time just for you. Whether you want to spend that time swimming, having manicures, or sinking a couple of pints with a mate and hearing a rubbish covers band in a pub is up to you - but you do need it.

Oh go on...

no HD, i couldn't lmao

ahhh go on, go on, go on, go on, go on...

nah, the image of Mrs Doyle has ruined my train of thought

Thanks for the messages everyone, im just having a feel sorry for me day, im knackered and so is he trying to get the business started, i just wish i could help more...but this time next year rodney.....................