Online dating not working

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I'm approaching my mid 30s. Want to get a move on and meet someone special to share my life with. Frustrated because there's so much I want to do with that special person, including travelling. Everything is sorted in my life - successful career, my own flat, my own car etc.

Why is it so difficult meeting good decent men? Online dating is just not working for me, perhaps because of my age? I met two previous bfs online, but struggling to get much interest now. Although in real life, i'm not short of it! I look younger than I do, maybe that's why.

I don't have much of a social life at the moment.

Struggling to meet anyone new tbh.

Looking for advice, trips and reassurance. Thanks!

I should add I don't meet anyone at work either - it's a very small organisation, 90% of my colleagues are women!

I feel your pain. FWIW I am also a single mum (which believe me makes it harder - you don't get time to go out or go on dates!). I guess if I were still childless and in your position I would be doing 18-30 type holidays, getting groups of friends together in cottages, putting yourself out for adult activity things or classes after work? For me I have the fear that even if I meet anyone, I couldn't sustain anything without introducing them to my dd, which is a step too far too soon IMO. If you had to write a bucket list of things to do, could that help you find some ways of meeting people? New hobbies or travel I'd say are key. Good luck!

Obviously when I say 18-30 type holidays, I don't mean quite those...I think there are nicer ones out there for people who don't just want a bonk IYKWIM

Something a bit like this [[https://www.explore.co.uk/experiences/holidays-for-solo-travellers?infinity=ict2~net~gaw~ar~292449793081~kw~singles%20travel~mt~p~cmp~%5BSb%5D%20Explore%20Brand%20-%20Group%20Type~ag~Explore%20Solo&gclid=CjwKCAiAlb_fBRBHEiwAzMeEdi9RESODQ_ru3gOs7yp4H-iHsWERadSQVTvaEZsOgsJAaUhrJGAJcxoCIIoQAvD_BwE explore] - even if you don't meet someone you'd have a great time and plenty to talk about on any future dates. Might make some decent friends and whole other circles for you to meet

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Thank you LonelyandTiredandLow

Annoyingly I think many men put young age limits when searching online dating.

Can you expand your social life to go to more events and clubs where you will meet more men and new people generally? If you are attracting men in real life it seems likely you will meet somebody if you just increase how many men you meet.

Also it sounds cheesey but do ask female friends if they have any single male friends they think you might like.

And I know lots of people who started actual relationships on that swipe left/ right app (is it Tinder? I married before it was a thing)