Think my niece hads a thing for dh.

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Maybe i'm reading too much into this but anyway this is wahts going on. She is always texting him and chatting to him on msn. She flirts with him loads when she sees him. I have her on my msn but she rarely talks too me. Now she is phoning him asking if she can come down at the weekend and stay over so she can introduce us to her new boyfriend.

Part of me thinks, we have been together 13 years he wouldnt touch her with a barge pole, but on the other hand she hasnt got all the flabby bits that I have.

Please tell me i'm talking utter crap.

TIA

Since you asked, I think you're talking utter crap Don't worry your dh won't want her.

what does your dh think? does he flirt back? enjoy the attention?

Sounds like he's enjoying the attention. I assume he's replying to her texts and her messages?

how old is she?

she is 19, they can sit up chatting half of the night.

well at least she had her own boyfriend!

He's encouraging her. Break his fingers so he can't type/text her anymore.

HAS

When she first started talking to him and texting him I thought it was quite sweet that she could sit and discuss things with him, but now i'm getting a little fed up with it.

I'd speak to him tbh, and get him to cut down the contact. Not that I wouldn't trust him or his judgement, but it sounds like she has a crush and I don't think she should be encouraged.

He may enjoy the attention/ego boost - but she may not understand that's as far as it goes. He may then end up in an awkward situation with her in the long run.

Best to get him to nip it in the bud now I would think.

IMHO!

Is she your sisters dd or his sisters dd?

Not that it makes a difference, I am just asking out of curiosity.

she is my sisters step daughter

Definitely sounds like she has a crush to me. And, sorry but sounds like he is enjoying it too. Get him to stop.

Talk to your DH and tell him it is not acceptable for him to spend so much time talking to her.

And not wanting to add to the paranoia, but my H (age 30) just had an affair with a 19 year old. And they are not as naive and innocent as I thought!!
(Or should I say not as naive and innocent as I was at 19!)

I'm sure if you talk about it he will be able to put a stop to it in a nice way, before it gets out of hand.

I bet he is lapping it up. Block her from MSN

have deleted her and also blocked her from his msn account.

Won't he be annoyed at you blocking his MSN contacts? Maybe you should talk to DH first?

Do you really think he'd do anything about it? If so, yes, I guess doing something about it makes sense. (Although, to be fair, if I found myself married to someone who I thought would sleep with his 19-year-old niece, I'd just divorce him.)

If you don't think he'd do anything about it, where is the harm? She's having a harmless crush, he may feel flattered, but if you're sure he wouldn't act on it, surely it's just good for her to have a good friendship with another adult?

Sounds like a harmless crush.
I am sure your DH is flattered, but there is nothing to worry about.
(If your concerns intensify, you could always remove his testicles as a precautionary measure. )

Keep your friends close ... and your enemies closer!