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Follow up to a previous thread. Being harassed by an ex

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Riveroftears · 16/11/2018 22:39

A few weeks ago I posted a thread titled: ‘boyfriend hysterically crying - is he unstable?’ I’m not very tech savvy and haven’t been able to link to the original thread (sorry!)

Since I ended the relationship (we were only together three months) this guy has not left me alone. I blocked him on everything when we split but he started calling me off different numbers. I told him in no uncertain terms to leave me alone but then he changed tack and started turning up at my house unannounced. He would ring the doorbell for ages (I didn’t answer) and then he would sit outside in his car. On one occasion he was talking through the letterbox saying that he had had a bad week and he just needed to talk to someone.

Last weekend I had to get my neighbour to tell him to clear off (which he did, angrily - he drove off so quickly he nearly crashed into a row of parked cars)...but then he came back the following evening and started knocking on my windows while calling my name.

I came back from work today and he had posted a letter through my letterbox - basically saying he loved me, that he was sorry and that he wants another chance to put things right.

I need to go to the police don’t i? I’ve told him to leave me alone and that didn’t work, my neighbour telling him to leave me alone didn’t work and now me ignoring him isn’t working. I just don’t know what else to do.

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Keepingthingsinteresting · 16/11/2018 23:16

Yes, please do. Something similar happened to me. This is not your responsibility & he is escalating. He may stop and so it might go nowhere, but you deserve not to be harassed. See the police, keep all the messages, letters etc and notes of when he turns up, how long he stayed etc but don’t engage with him.

If the police don’t take it seriouly (though I suspect they will) you can apply for a non molestation order, which means he has to leave you alone or he gets arested. Take care.

Changedname3456 · 17/11/2018 06:23

Yep, time for the police to get involved I’m afraid.

gamerchick · 17/11/2018 06:31

The police will go and have a stern word with him OP. That's usually all it takes.

Longdistance · 17/11/2018 06:54

Make sure you log all the stalking he’s doing with times, dates and his actions on a list.

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