Hi all - I am married with 2DC (10&5), and thought I had managed to finally put the relationship on an even keel again. We had a lovely year, a pleasant anniversary (went for dinner), and I felt like a partner that has been listened to and had a voice. (After 10 years of feeling miserable, it suddenly changed around February , as I managed my emotions better, was firmer but loving and had lost some weight) now - it is back to the old misery. The constant put me downs started about 6 weeks ago (body shaming (I have gone up to a size 12 again and a BMI of 25.2), sniping comments about what I wear, how our children are unruly and not well behaved, how I am neglecting their upbringing). This morning was just down right horrible- he picked a fight in a packed commuter train because I did not immediately agree and had not sorted something. I am still so hurt I find it very hard to be the same room than him. So - are there any success stories of relationships that have truly and long term improved? Or do I finally have to bite the bullet and divorce? 