... what do you think of this?

[HollyLM]

.... so further to all my other posts.

I stayed at my mums last night. I said to my partner that I 'may' be meeting a friend for a drink. She lives in the same town as my mum so I usually stay the night as I work there too (makes sense). He said to me, yeah no worries let me know. So I let him know that I was definitely meeting her so me and my DD would see him tomorrow (today.)

I messaged a couple of times during the evening, no response....

I then ask him today what's wrong? And I get this message.... (bare in mind he's the one who constantly disrespects me, lies and has prostitutes to the house!)

Nothings wrong its just you isn’t it selfish.

How would you feel if I txt you in the morning said I was going out with my mate that night and not coming home?

Don’t try and tell me it wasn’t all arranged well before either.

It’s like you have no respect for me and I don’t know if I want to be with someone who can treat me like that so I think we should take a breather whilst I get my head around it and what I want xxx

I think the same thing I thought when I saw your prostitute post; it is not good for you to have any emotional investment in this man at all. If for some reason you can't leave him you really do need to at least detach yourself emotionally. This dynamic between you is codependent and unhealthy. Please.... just please.

Why are you still with this man??

OP don’t even bother worrying about his text or what he’s saying. This isn’t a relationship, this is torture. Tell him it’s over and leave. Honestly, that is the only response you need to give him.

Wait...what?

Prostitutes to the house? Why are you still with him?

I hope your response was to agree with the last thing he said, as in you want to do the same. Or do you even need a breather? Why bother giving him any more head space?

Wtf? He has prostitutes come to the house and you’re worrying about a text.

Come on

HAD prostitutes * sorry - even though doesn't make it any different!

He's lied to me about things a few times this week. Yet I stay at my mums for the night and I get told I'm disrespectful?!!!

Jesus, are you serious, it's you who needs to get away and clear your head cos you are in some fog.

Does it matter?

He's a prostitute using cocaine addict who you have already said (several times..) you are leaving.

It doesn't matter a jot what he texts you, surely?

What do you want people to say?

When will you wise up OP, the man has zero respect for you and women in general; he treats you like shit and snorts cocaine and you upset over his text; please go talk to your mum, tell her everything, maybe she can talk some sense into you; what else can he do to make you realise he's a fucken waste of space?

You need to not be in love with him any more. Seriously. You need to whip your heart into shape because it's not doing you any favours here, don't let it lead you into hell (if you're not there already). What exactly is it going to take?? You're terrible for each other; he's done some terrible things. Where is this going to end? It isn't in a fairytale, i can tell you that for nothing.

Why is he even your partner? Have you no self respect?

I've just read through all of your previous threads. You need to see a GP for your anxiety, you seem to have some sort of fear of being single and you are letting this overshadow rational thought.

If your DD came to you in 20 years time and said she was being treated like you are would you seriously tell her to stay incase she didn't find anyone else?

Please seek help

I don’t know if I want to be with someone who can treat me like that so I think we should take a breather whilst I get my head around it

I don’t wish to be glib but surely given your other posts the only answer to this ^^ is

“super, off you pop, make sure you take all your stuff with you”

I don't get your outrage to be honest OP. You already know he's a prick, you've (for whatever reason) chosen to stay with him so you accept that he's a prick...don't be surprised when he's a prick to you.

Stop caring what he thinks. He has used up any respect/like/love you might have had for him.
Go.
He calls you all the names under the sun- so what?! It is just a verbal spanking because you are not letting him stuff you into the template he has assigned you. Don’t even listen to it.