Shall I ask him on a date?

[Amazona24]

I'm now good at this stuff been pretty unlucky in love. Any way I've started speaking to this guy I came across on Instagram. We have mutual friends. We have replied to each other's posts and a conversation has just struck up. Been talking for 2 weeks. Anyway I want to ask him out for a drink but my dilemma is would it be too much? Would I scare him away? Should I wait for him to ask and let this progress further first? Help!? I need advice

TBH it all sounds a bit "spy kids"

"Spy kids" what?

Bump

Go for it OP, why not. Good luck.

I have no idea how to word it!

Instagram, I've heard of it but not sure how it works. Is there a keyboard, lol. Anyway, while sitting at the keyboard, try and be calm, clear you mind and not worry. Then write whatever feels natural to. If he's the right one for you it'll work out you see.

My ex met his now-wife on Instagram (while we were together, but that’s another story...) If you reckon he’s single, go for it!

vita is a phone only app. But you can privately direct message people. Ok I'll just try keep it casual and see if he's free next week for a drink. Ahh

Just remember that it isn’t possible to scare away someone who is interested in meeting you, just by asking them if they want to meet you

If he doesn’t want to take it further, by asking you won’t ‘scare him off’ you’ll just clarify his thinking, and stop yourself from tying yourself in knots further or wasting your time.

It’s as easy as waiting until your next online conversation and saying “do you fancy carrying on this conversation over coffee sometime next week?”

I've sent the message now it's just a waiting game to see if he will reply! I hate all of this, no good at this dating stuff

I was confused whether you were “now good” or “no good” at dating. It make sense now you know.

That's great!

Oops sorry didn't notice the typo. I'm no good at it!

Well he hasn't read or replied to the message yet. When do you think I should wait till until I know he's actually ignoring me?

How often is he usually on Instagram? It's Friday night, he's probably busy. Although if you go to messages but not into any message it should tell you when people were last online.

Here and there. He may be busy tonight. I'll guess I'll have to wait until tomorrow to see if I get a reply

Well done op

Ignore the pedant!

Good luck !

He still hasn't read it. Somehow I'm not filled with hope that he will reply. Guys around my age (late 20s) only want something casual with me because I had a young DS :(

Better to know now than waste more time. Onto the next!

I know it's best to know. But all this rejection from guys is beginning to become hard. 5 guys in the 6 months have ignored me completely or ignored the past about meeting up

Well I got a reply and it was he wasn't doing anything Tuesday at the moment but has met up with another girl for a drink and might be seeing her again so don't think it's right to meet up with me and said sorry. Thing is if he likes her why is he messaging me and liking my posts etc

I'm sorry you didn't get the response you were hoping for, but at least you know. In addition he was honest enough to tell you his current situation, he could have easily strung you along.

I think a guy can message and converse with the opposite sex without trying to start a romantic relationship. Unless your messages to each other were of a racy and explicit nature?

No, not racy. Every time I get turned down it seems to be for someone else. Like there is always someone better than me. Just makes you feel like rubbish after a while

Ah sorry. At least you gave it a go. It'll help you stop wondering now.

It seems like a long road sometimes, this search. It'll happen when it's meant to, chin up.

OP please don’t take it personally. He just isn’t the right man for you, and that’s okay.

You should feel proud of yourself for making the first move! I’m not single but if I was I wouldn’t have the balls to do it. I’ve never made the first move but always wish I could.

My friend is also late 20s like me and you and was a single mum. She surged through a lot of idiots until she found somebody decent, so please don’t take it personally and thinks it’s just you. You will find somebody!