Who is right? Ill DS and total disagreement

[Fooferella]

DS started feeling poorly last night so this morning I checked how he was and he had a sore throat, blocked nose etc - classic cold symptoms. I usually would insist he go to school but he didn't sleep well either and today is a half day so thought it wouldn't hurt to keep him home.
When DH heard of this he insisted that DS was fine and I was being a terrible parent. He threatened to stay home from work and take DS to school himself. (DS is 8) He said I'm obsessed with illness and basically that I'm giving my son a complex.
So I capitulated a bit and when DH was upstairs talked to DS about going to school. He started to cry and told me that I ALWAYS let him(DH) win. That really made me think, and he's partially right.
I ended up standing up to DH and insisting DS stayed home today. DH yelled at DS that if he's so ill he has to stay in bed all day then he stormed off to work in a huff.
So my question is not whether or not DS should or shouldn't have gone to school but whether I was right in standing my ground?
I don't want DS growing up seeing me always capitulate to his father's demands. DH is not abusive but he does have a controlling streak and can be immovable in his opinions. He also lacks empathy when he's in the moment although will often concede the point afterwards once he's mulled it over. WWYD in this situation?

I think this is DS first sick day this year. He really doesn't get to stay home at the first sign of a sniffle every time and is rarely ill at all.

In which case your DH was wrong in what he said.

You are right in your response to a pp. it’s not possible to change other people but it’s absolutely possible to change the dynamic by changing our reactions. And seeing that change happening can feel really empowering.

It sounds like you are doing good work with your therapist.

Pa I hope your boy is feeling better.

Crikey. He’s only 8. Hasn’t slept well, not feeling great and it’s a half day at school anyway. Good for you got standing up to your DH. It’s not like half a day off school is going to make a difference to him getting a Degree or not! Sounds like your DH has lost all perspective and is a bit of a twat.