Am I being stupid? Or is she trying it on?

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Last month I met my good friend for a drink and she brought out a newish friend (who is gay ) we got on well and after a few drinks she started dancing with me and my friend kinda looked at her to say don't do that ....I said she was ok and she continued to dance with me.
The day after my friend said she said she thought I was fun and added me to Facebook.
She asked my friend to ask me if I wanted to join them for a meal and I went along.
She was telling me about her love life then asking what type of things I enjoyed doing etc.
I stayed over at my friends and she also stayed.
I was lying on the bed and we started joking around pulling off the quilt and my friend told me to be careful incase she got the wrong idea.
A week later I posted to Facebook about wanting to go to this event,she sent me a message straight away saying she was going and I should go too.
Now is she asking me as a friend here?
I'm worried things might get confused but at the end of the day she's still a woman
What do you think?

at the end of the day she's still a woman

What do you mean by this?

As in just because she's gay she's still a woman who probably likes to make friends.
I don't want to be stupid and think just because she's gay she wants anything other than friendship ...but at same time don't want to lead her on.

I think your friend needs to calm down.

Why is she policing the other friend's behaviour? What's the history here?

No one can really say now can they. She might be in to you. She might be treating you as a friend.

I agree.
I didn't mind her dancing with me (why would I )
No history they are just friends who met at work.

If there's no history how come [your friend] is so worried about [new friend]'s behaviour?

It's not usual to tell two people not to dance together, or to tell one not to give the other "the wrong idea".

I honestly think it's because her friend is gay.
I think she's always thinking she's after every woman on the planet.

Anyone else with any advice?
Shall I say yes and just go with the flow ?

Maybe she's mentioned you and your friend thinks she fancies you, perhaps

Well if you like her, go for it.

Just ask her outright. If you describe things as you have in your post, and explain your uncertainty, I think that's perfectly acceptable and there's no reason for any awkwardness or offence to happen, just be calm, clear and honest - do you feel comfortable about doing that? You would at least have a much better idea of where you stand.

Can you have an honest conversation with your friend after that? Might need sensitive handling - there's clearly more to this.

Honesty (expressed calmly and sensitively) is the best policy :)

Has your friend ever introduced you to a straight male friend and then told you to be careful and not lead them on?

TBH I'd be asking your friend "Why are you asking me about not leading gay friend on? Has she tried it on with you and put you in an uncomfortable situation? [If so why the fuck would you introduce her to me?]"

I think the gay lady likes you and maybe has a crush on you,...if you don't like her in that way and aren't interested, then deal with it the same way you would deal with it if it was a male friend who had a crush on you...

If you enjoy her company there is no reason you can still be friends with her, but if you have no romantic feelings for her you need to gently make it clear so that she knows

Has your friend ever introduced you to a straight male friend and then told you to be careful and not lead them on?

Exactly @NotTheFordType - this is why I was asking about any history.
Either that or the friend is just one of those who thinks you can't be friends with someone if there's the slightest chance you might fancy them (and so will never ever have introduced a male friend, because they can't exist).

She was telling me about her love life then asking what type of things I enjoyed doing etc.
I stayed over at my friends and she also stayed.
I was lying on the bed and we started joking around pulling off the quilt and my friend told me to be careful incase she got the wrong idea.

To be blunt, were the questions sexual as in what kind of things do you like to do in bed ?

I am concerned about this, 'lying on the bed joking around'. In what circumstances would you be lying on the bed joking around with someone you had not long been introduced to on a friend of a friend basis ? (That's not a 'judgement call' I don't want this thread derailed.)

I might get flamed for this but would you act like that around a heterosexual man in similar circumstances ? Sorry to say this but some of what you have written sounds like it could form the basis of a statement you would give to the police if you had been sexually assaulted.
Irrespective of the gender or sexual orientation of the assailant.

No as in hobbies
What type of things do I enjoy doing in my spare time,do I like to travel etc
We stayed at my friends and the 3 of us were just lying on her bed and just chatting and that's when we started joking around

So why do you think your friend was giving you the side eye?

I think it's because she's gay and she was worried she might get the wrong impression.
I think maybe il just agree to go and make it clear I like men.

It sounds like you like her? Almost like this post is your way of figuring out if she likes you...

I'm not sure if I'm honest.
Might be fun to find out.