Confused an heartbroken

[megan400]

Hi me and ex partner have been together for over 10 years we have 3 kids together i caught him texting other girls amd i thought i could for give him an move on but he just did it again an we are now split. We have been split for about a month now bit he txtes me saying he loves me and we need space an then wants to try again but i have just found out he met up with another girl for 3 days when he told me he was away at a football event an he was txtin me when he was with her tellin me he loves me ect. Im so hurt an heartbroken an confused that i dont know what to do anymore its hard enough i have to see him all the time because of the kids should i move on? Or try with him....... i love him so much an its killing me i feel sick all the time and feel like my heart is pounding in my chest. Help!

You love a lying cheating scumbag, doubt it, you just don't want to let go due to the 3 kids; why are you even listening to a word he says, you know he will continue to hurt you; let him call it love, it's not, it's him having his cake and manipulating you into the bargain, wise up OP, you are not a teenager.

You love him but it’s clear he doesn’t love you. He essentially wants to have his cake and eat it. You have to be brave for you and for your dc. Tell him you don’t want him back and that you need to sort a schedule for seeing the kids, keep it business, not rude but just polite. It’s so tricky when you have kids. Ask him not to message you unless it’s about dc. My heart goes out to you because he is manipulating you and moving on when he’s still telling you everything you want to hear is tough. Stay strong x

he loves me and we need space an then wants to try again
Basically means.....
He wants to keep you dangling and on the back burner while he goes out and shags other women and when he's had enough of that, you will take him back with open arms and you can all get back to normal!
He's a fucking cock.
A lying, cheating scumbag.
You and your DC deserve far better!

Plus you don't even have the financial protection of marriage.

Mind you, if you earn more than him he has no right to any of your money now you've split. Yay!

Get rid. He's a liar, a cheat, a thoroughly unpleasant person. Really op, get rid and move on. Get yourself a lovely life without him in it.

(Why do you say you have to see him "all the time"? No you don't. Get specific contact times stapled down and stick to them.)

He's fishing online for other woman every day, you cant trust someone like him ever again

Wave goodbye for sure.

Don't be the cake. Look up chump lady