After years of family dramas which I couldn’t even begin to explain as it would take forever this year it’s reached the peak. My DM and DF have never got on I used to think as a child they should get divorced, they don’t talk to each other but DM loves to talk about everyone to everyone so there are a lot of cover ups and lies and fake behavior. As the only girl and middle child (I have a twin brother but he is really the baby) I got stuck with the confidante/friend role. I left home and moved to the UK nearly 20 years ago and although it helped me I am still caught up in this mess. I got married in June and around this time discovered that my DSil has been stealing from my mother for years...she covered her tracks by providing fake bank statements and proof of payments she made on behalf of DM. DF works in UAE and was sending money home to DM. I have been telling DM for years not to trust her and everything I said would happen has come true, I tried to help but was shut out and a bank account of mine was emptied as well with my DF paying me back. Items I inherited from my Granny were loaned to DB and DSil and some have come back eventually in a terrible state and some not at all. I had to fly to South Africa 3 weeks after wedding to help sort things out as my twin (who is jobless and lives at home with DM) is absolutely useless. We have pressed charges against both DSil and DB which is really awful...who wants to have do that? This all surfaced after a fight 2 weeks before wedding with DM when she said she couldn’t come as she had no money...DF found out and it all started to unravel the week before my wedding. I hate them all and I want NC but it’s hard, I feel obligated to help as I think if I don’t it will come back to me one day when they have no money and no help, if I help them now they stand a chance of getting back on their feet. I recently didn’t speak to DM for a few weeks and it was great but now we have started speaking again...DF doesn’t talk to her at all. I really feel that when DM and DF are dead I will have some peace which is a really horrible thing to think. How do I stop this taking over my life...I don’t want to be bitter and resentful