Bored

[Googlybearwazowski]

Background: together 8 years, married 2. 2 DC (preschool)

Recurring argument started by my centering around me feeling unappreciated, he is great with kids but does very little around the house. Doesn't suggest we do anything together ie date nights. We talk about our days and plans for the week etc. I like to plan for the future, how we can save for a house etc. He likes to not worry about it, it'll happen when it's right .. he is very laid back and we probably wouldn't be married with kids except for the unexpected pregnancy that was dc1 (we'd been together ages and lived together, we're very much in love and wanted kids 'one day' so it wasn't totally awful). He says he proposed because he thought it was what I wanted. He's not romantic but does claim to love me and is overall a good guy.

But I am bored of him leaving his socks on the floor and him never suggesting we have a date night and this pleasant but unenthusiastic relationship.

However I have been diagnosed with depression and I don't know how much of this is me, caused by that, and therefore not an accurate representation? I am taking the pills but while they've helped my general mood, these things still niggle me.

What do I do?

Talk to him , explain how you feel . Put a plan together where your needs are met. My DH isn't very good at organising anything like nights out , but I am, so I organise and we has a great time when we do go out . Most men love staying at home and don't seem to have that desire to ever leave the house ...but sometimes a rocket up their arse is what's needed.
You really need to talk to him ..good luck OP...I'm sure it can be resolved

Tell him where you want to go and what you want to do. Book a babysitter and go. Make it a regular weekly thing. You would do this with your girlfriends, so why not with him.
Eventually it will be habit that you always go out Fri/Sat eve as a couple.

Socks on the floor? Is he doing this because you are not working and he thinks you have all day to clean up?

Make a list and discuss it with him. Stress that you'll be going back to work, so he needs to drop the entitled behaviour now.

I have talked to him numerous times, he apologises, excuses everything because he was busy doing something else I would want him to do ie I couldn't do the dishwasher because I was watching the kids, I was in a hurry to get to work so I left my clothes on the floor, breakfast stuff on table etc. Or he was going to do it later, and why is it a big deal it's just socks etc. But it's constant and he makes an effort for a few days but then always goes back to bring the same.

After I mentioned that we haven't had a date night since one I organised in sept he asked me today if my period would be finished by the weekend? When I said unlikely he said shame, I thought we could have a date night. I bollocked him but he just thought it was funny and said he didn't mean it like that.

Date nights? Bored? How old are you OP? Very likely your depression is linked to your lifestyle, expectations and desire to have a face book style perfect life.
Unfortunately, perfection escapes most of us - myself included - and so we make the best of what we have, accept the reality of life and count our blessings if we have any and if we haven't change things accordingly.
If he's leaving his socks on the floor and you're picking up after him then why are you doing that?
Assert yourself. Stop being a doormat.
If you want date nights then organise them. Take control. It's your life OP. No one else's.