First time with a woman advice?

[carlyday]

I started seeing someone 8 weeks ago but we haven't slept together yet.
She is the first woman I've dated but haven't told her this.
For fear she might be put off.
Now it's getting to a point where she wants to stay over.
I'm obviously nervous.
I don't know whether to tell her incase she doesn't fancy me anymore.
I really like her too.

How lovely :)

I’d definately tell her especially if you wanted to take it slow. Ask her to be vocal about what she needs to help you out a bit!

Be yourself, if they're the right person they won't mind.

Maybe it's her first time too?

She's been "out" so to speak for 15 years so deffo not her first time.
I don't know why I'm so nervous.
My last relationship was with a man for 7 years so everything was just straight forward.

Trust me, it will work.
Just chill out, be honest about your lack of experience. Talk to her about what she likes!

Best advice I ever got was when you don't know what to say is to state that you don't know what to say in the situation, works for almost every situation.

Hi XXXXXXX, I really want you to stay over but I'm worried I might not do things to your expectation as I'm used to entertaining sodding men and I want this to be as special for you as it will be for me.

I know.
It's crazy how the simplest of things(just being honest ) seems like the most impossible thing to say.

I suspect she will seek to take the lead and you just need to relax and go with the flow...

Just tell her its your first time so if you feel unsure she can guide you and then the rest will just happen. Luckily my first time was with my now wife who it was also her first time but we soon learnt what to do.
Every person is different anyway so its not like you can use a standard formula. Enjoy :)

Be honest, everyone had a first time.

I'm used to entertaining sodding men oow you are awful.

choccy, me too

I think everyone has got it right. Tell her, but not in a big admission way.

Like you OP, I had only ever been with men, but honestly, after the first minute or two, everything just naturally happens.

It's certainly a bit scary, that first time, because it's new territory, but you'll soon find you're enjoying yourself too much to worry and you will know what to do. Oh, I'm quite jealous I'll never have that first time again, which should tell you something!

Hope you have a great night