How do i stop overthinking everything??

[DiamondsInTheMud]

In a LDR, about 3 hours drive between us so manage to see eachother most weekends

When we're together everything is amazing, he is so caring, thoughtful, loving.

Hes defo thinking long term, is planning expensivr refurbishment to his house to make space in the bathroom.for a shower without getting rid of the bath, because i like having baths, talks about plans over the next year etc. Everything is exactly how it should be 5 months in.

But as soon as i go home, or he leaves, i start overthinking everything! Its like i have too much time to think and start to doubt everything. I start to worry that he isnt talking about moving in together yet, even though rationally i know that 5 months is not that long.

How do i stop getting so paranoid about everything when im not with him? This is my first LDR and im struggling a bit with it. I dont want him to think im insane...

Trust isnt one of the things i worry about though strangely enough, i dont worry about him cheating or anything. Just that our relationship isnt progressing enough. Even though it is....

5 months is really short, especially for a LDR. If he was talking about moving in together, someone on here would probably say he was love-bombing you and it was a huge red flag :)

Can you phone him up when you are feeling especially paranoid? I always find that when you actually talk to the other person, they are so not like what you had started imagining in your head that you realise how silly you were being.

Do you have other stuff in your life to keep you busy?

Do you ever think about what you need to learn about him to know if you want him long term?

Did you have reliable, supportive parents/adults in your life as a child?

I did yes. Very supportive parents, who i am still very close to. Incedently they are meeting dp in a couple of weeks for the first time. They stay pretty far away so this has been the first opportunity. Ive met dps mum a few times now.

In terms of learning things about him, theres nothing specific that i think im missing... Not that i think i know everything obviously, but its just little gaps that you usually discover along the way. Weve discussed previous relationships, long term goals, both in career and personally, talked a bit about the future hypothetically etc.

I've picked up some hobbies that i have let slide over the last few years, amd really enjoying getting back into them, so hopefully that'll be a bit of a distraction.