Dating with a health condition

[Sunflower6]

Has anyone here dated with a health condition - if so how far in to meeting someone did you/would you tell them.

I have a benign brain tumour that doesn't need treatment at the moment and is symptomless at the moment but could cause me to need treatment if it grows/causes symptoms.

I am worried that no one will want to date me if they no this about me.

Hi Sunflower

This is such a tricky one. I am not in the same situation but not dissimilar - I had a life changing cancer that rendered me infertile.

The only person I’ve told is my last boyfriend, I was one year post treatment when I met him and I told him on date number 5, just because it sort of fitted the conversation we were having.

Before I met him and since we’ve broken up I’ve dated a few people but not told any of them, either because it wasn’t the right time or because I didn’t think they’d take it well so we probably wouldn’t have a future.

Long story short, I don’t think there’s a right answer. If you meet someone you like then tell them when it feels right, if it doesn’t feel right then maybe ask yourself why. At the end of the day, if someone doesn’t want to date you for it it’s 100% their problem and 0% yours and you wouldn’t want to be with them anyway, right?

Good luck x

I have disabilities but appear very able bodied. I'm very upfront about it as it has a huge affect on my life but not daily. I have had a few relationships since divorce but I've struggled to manage it with my fatigue. I just can't marry up dating with managing the rest of my life.

Epilepsy, not as controlled as I'd like. I've always been upfront about it, and had a couple of truly bizarre reactions (the evangelical bishop's son said I had the devil inside me and he'd ask his father to pray for me ). It scared DH when we first started dating, but he was honest about that. I can't really blame him for that as I'd be terrified if he had a seizure.

ginandtonic I think we both dated the same bishops son. And I that arse clearly didn’t pray hard enough cos I still have the devil in me 😂

I tend to tell a guy before we sleep together because I have night seizures.