I’m not whether to post this to AIBU or here.
So, my son has come home from his dad’s second weekend in a row with bruises that look like grabs marks. Now I don’t think my stbxh would ever hurt our son and i’m 100% sure he just hurt them playing but the nursery that he goes to gets you to fill in a form regarding any bruise apart from the from odd shin bruise.
So I ask his dad, I said
‘Hi, thanks for having them this weekend whilst I was unwell. [son’s name] has a bruise on his arm, and both his legs that look like grab marks, I know they aren’t but I will have to fill out a form at nursery, do you know how he got them?’
He knows about the forms at nursery, but I always pick him up so it’s me that has to fill them in even when they didn’t happen in my care.
The problem is instead of his dad saying ‘I don’t know’ cause let’s face it kids are clumsy and do we honestly know where they get all their bruises? Well he got all defensive, saying I’m accusing him blah blah blah.
We usually have a really good co parenting relationship and manage to have the odd laugh and light hearted conversation so we aren’t out to get each other.
So this outburst really set me back, I told him I was upset with how he responded, how I hate filling the forms in, and it would look bad if I hadn’t bothered asking him, so I just said in future I will just put ‘dont know, happened in his dad’s care’.
Well he apologised and said he would talk to the nursery if that was better.
But i’m nothing but polite with him, all the shit i’ve dealt with him the past and I am constantly making the effort to be friends with him for our child’s sake.
Would you have been annoyed by his outburst? Or am I overreacting?
Yesterday, he put the kids to be for me and then moaned the puppies were damaging MY kitchen table. He had an outburst then and quickly apologised.
I just don’t know what’s up with him but I feel like his verbal punching bag recently