Boyfriend and his job

[heeeeeelpme]

Please help me talk this through
Have no one to talk to

So my boyfriend of 4 yrs ( split up for 5 months this year and got back together in the summer )

He got made redundant last year and got into debt
We ended up splitting up
Stress and finances and him making wrong decisions

Anyway when we split he opened a business with a friend
I'm against it due to previous problems and decisions he made last time
Anyway
I feel I had no right to say as we weren't together so I rolled with it

Months on I don't think it's good for him
Which is affecting us
He cant see it

He still works his day job which he hates and still runs the other business

He's stressed and tired
Which last time led to us splitting up and I worry it's happening again
I don't want to go through the hurt and Joseph I went through but he just doesn't it.

There's more to it but have summarised
Need to talk it through as no one to talk to in rl

Thanks for reading x

You have all the time and space in the world here, and you say no-one else to talk it through with - so why not talk about the “more to it”?

Because I have a feeling that you’re going to end up drip feeding (not a criticism!) something quite important. Around him making “wrong decisions”?

He hates his job, but instead of sitting around moaning about it, he’s started his own business. That’s a good thing, perhaps? And being tired, stressed and poor often goes with the early days of a new business. You don’t have to live with that, but it means he may just be not right for you, rather than actually in the wrong.

Is he taking thar stress out on you?

How old are you both?

You can decide if this doesn't work for you, rather than worry about what might happen.
If you don't like who he becomes when he has 2 jobs you have a choice to leave. It may not be the jobs, it could be his normal behaviour.

Don't hang on to a relationship because it was once good a while ago. If you have no children why stay if it makes you unhappy.

you've used a Name in your post OP...

Sorry Joseph was a typo!
I was rushing to get to my friends after work !! Hence why I said I was summarising

Not tying to hide anything / drip feed just hate going on that's all

Bad decisions though work and money sadly. Resulting in a previous failed business and a LOT of money lost

Taking it out on me by being short, stress and grumpy so not massive things just hard when I'm trying to be supportive but I can't help how I feel

Guess just wanted to rant and get a non biased view x

I'm 30 he's 37

Ooh good lol