Phew, this maybe longer than I’d like, but rather than drip feed, I thought it best to tell all.
Met DP online nearly several years ago. Clicked and started dating, even though there was a 50 mile distance between us.
Both in our 50’’s so been around the block a few times.!
5 months in he was hospitalised with a condition that was painful, but treatable and would require some lifestyle changes to manage it.
During this time I was being made redundant, so was able to be there more for him, after several months we decided that I move in as things had moved on.
In hindsight, that was way to early! I moved from a city to a village and felt very isolated and also realised that he was very laid back (lazy) re housework.
During this time I was only working 2-3 days, but was subsidising my share of bills (50/50) with my redundancy money.
I also found out that he was a “previous member of Adultwork and was a keen user of Porn- had been single for the previous 9years).
This tainted what I thought we had and coupled with being unhappy with where I was, 16 months later I moved out (City girl 😀).
Stayed in contact and decided to try at a relationship.
Since then, we were seeing each other 1 day during the week, as one of my jobs is out his way, and then alternate weekends.
During the time that time, he has not once organised anything for us to do. I have raised this, but each time he says “yeah I’ll do something” or he’s too ill and I end up feeling guilty.
For extra info, he has poor knees, a stomach condition, COPD as well as being treated for anxiety.
I’m not the fittest in the bunch, but his idea of a goodnight is a takeaway and a Netflix.
Sex is... basically me doing the lions share of the physical work.!
I’m not sure what I’m asking really,
I guess I feel more like a Carer/Mother than a partner, but don’t know how to bring an end to this.