Has anyone found male or female friends on dating sites

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Can you or has anyone found male or female friends on dating sites? They get a lot of traffic so, I guess some people must.

I’m thinking about going down this route.

theres already apps for finding friends.

Yes - but only in the context of having orginally met people for dates, there not being any chemistry, but having lots in common and deciding to hang out as friends. Most people on dating sites are looking to date or hook up rather than for friends and you probably won’t have much success trying to pitch “just” for friends.

If you’re in a reasonable sized town or city then Bumble BFF is a friend making site. Otherwise, Meetup - thousands and thousands of people who genuinely want to make new friends who share their interests.

Thank you, I’ve heard of meet up but bowling along on my own is a bit daunting!

I’ve never heard of Bumble BFF though. Can you make male friends on that too?

Why are you thinking of using a dating site to find male friends?

Do you mean friends you have sex with?

Dating sites are trouble from my experience; and they are mostly for sex try joining community groups

I haven’t got any male friends and I’d like some. No I don’t want to have sex with them. I just want to have a more mixed friendship group going forward. Females and males to talk to and socialise with.

I’m sure I read somewhere that people were finding platonic friends on dating sites.

People do find friends on dating sites, but it’s not what most people are there for and so unless it actually states on somebody’s profile “I am just looking for platonic friends to hang out with” you’d really be wasting each other’s time messaging men if you only wanted to get a friendship out of it.

If you want a wider social group then you need to pitch to people who want the same. Meetup sounds daunting - but unlike a lot of other classes, groups and hobbies etc where a lot of people are primarily there for the activity itself, the people who go to Meetups are genuinely looking to make friends and social circles out of it. You’ll find people open and welcoming and wanting to get to know each other. For a first timer, something where you can immerse in an activity and therefore have something else to concentrate on can be good (do you like to dance? Sing? Paint? Cycle?) or evening social meet and greets where you can lubricate your inner mortified Victorian with a couple of drinks.

Also, “friends” in dating site parlance can be interpreted as “friends with benefits”, so if you do end up trying this route, be very clear that this isn’t your aim.

“Inner mortified Victorian” that made me lol. I’ll just grow a pair and get on with it, who cares! Meet up sounds better! I certainly do not want friends with benefits. Just miss having male friends so much.

Anyone who does meet up here? What kinds of things are you joined to?

Females and males to talk to and socialise with.

Do you mean "women and men"? Because your social interactions will go better if you think of other people as humans and not some non-specified mammal.

Lol 😂 I thought saying men friends and women friends was bad grammar!
Sorry if I have offended anyone!

Or maybe I should just stay at home if I offend people so easily. 😂

What happened to your former male friends? I would recommend taking up a hobby (as long as it's something you're actually interested in) because that's a great way of making new friends. Running, cycling, climbing, caving, sailing, surfing etc Or if you prefer less active stuff, join a choir, or a book group, or start going to a pub that holds a weekly quiz night and join one of the teams.

I lost touch with them when I moved from my hometown and just general “life happens”.

I like actually seeing friends, I am not into the million friends on FB thing, so meeting people through activities sounds good.

The pub quiz is a great idea! Thanks.

I have friends that i met via dating sites, but as someone else mentioned upthread, these are men that i dated, but where there was no spark even though we got on well.

I second the pub quiz idea. Do you work? Do your colleagues socialise at all?

Yes, I work but I like a separate life away from work too.