Pregnant and frightened.

[chairese2]

21 weeks with a planned baby.

Last 5 weeks or so my partner has really shown a different side and I have realised he has probably been emotionally and financially abusing me for our entire relationship and I've clearly been too stupid/naive to see it.

He's been nothing but cruel, spiteful and unsupportive and I want out.
He owes me a lot of money that I was depending on for during my maternity leave, but as time goes on I understand how silly I was to ever believe I'd get that back. And no, I wasn't smart enough to put anything in writing so I have no rights.

I'm very very scared though. I don't know what to do. We live together (rented) and although I pay for everything so could potentially stay here alone, when I'm on maternity leave my income will obviously be much less so I think I have to give the house up. Where can I go and how can I still give my child the life I had planned to? I'm still really happy about being pregnant and know I can do it in my own emotionally but so frightened I'm going to let me child down because of the financial struggle I'm in now.

Please can someone help

I think Woman's Aid would be able to help you. Just Google their number. They will at least be able to advise you.
I wish you all the best....

Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry you are doing it alone. I was in similar situation pregnant and unsure of relationship i was terrified but also felt very blessed with a longer for baby (10 yrs of trying)! I took 6 months off work and fortunate to work for company with good mat policy. What support do u have ? good friends - any family nearby? Can u rent somewhere cheaper? Was hard sometimes looking after baby on own but sometimes a breeze with only him and me to worry about!. Lots of luck

Have you looked into what benefits you might get in addition to maternity pay? Use the online calculators. Your STBX will have to pay maintenance, although you said he doesn't work so sounds like that would be very little (if anything). I suspect you might be entitled to housing benefit and you will get council tax discount at the very least.
Is the rented property in joint names? do you have long to go on the tenancy?
As for the money, you could go and get advice from a solicitor. Even if you don't have anything in writing, it could be something you could pursue in the small claims court if you have proof you transferred money to him.

Where does it say the dp doesn't work. Must have missed it can he move out if you pay all the rent anyway.

Get out now before this baby is born. Once the baby is here it will be harder and you will have the baby to put first. You and him will convince your selves that the best thing for the child os for you to be together. It's possible to leave and survive without him, do it